无理

为什么就是要拿别人的过错来惩罚自己？？？ 这样的举动不是很傻吗？这样做不止伤身，伤元气还让对方更开心。就是有这样“爱炫耀”，“爱出面”的人，再加上偏偏却是一个什么都不会，只会说.根本就是NATO嘛！！！！

答应自己，不管如何要冷静思绪，以更有智慧的方式来面对！！！！ 我一定可以的！！！！

Remember Forgetting

By Samuel Rainey

I woke up the other night at 3 in the morning. To that point, my dreams had only been about the pesky moles that seem to have overtaken my back yard. I’ve declared war on the moles over the past year, and to this point they have been the victor.

My wife thinks that I have issues, but I digress.

Just before going to bed, I’d told Stephanie about my weariness. It’s been a long season professionally, personally, and spiritually. I told her that I want to trust God in his provisions for our family but the ever-present health issues, some chronic, that our family faces has led to insatiable doubts—I am like doubting Thomas. It’s not that I’ve never placed my hands on God’s side, or on his hands, but that I continue to forget what his side and hands feel like.

Remembering is a choice.
Forget. It’s a word that speaks to cognition. To our ability to think, prospect, and understand. Forgetting really only happens in our head. It doesn’t happen in our hearts or our body. If you’ve ever played a sport, you can understand that memory is part of our body. When swinging a golf club, the muscles memorize the routine and act accordingly. Our body understands and knows that it has been there before, and it reacts to how we have trained it to react. This is why golf, tennis etc. lessons are so difficult. Changing the pattern of our reactive patterns is really difficult.

I could continue to speak to the reactive nature of our lives, but that’s not woke me up the other night. I was jarred awake because I needed to hear something very important—that my remembering is a choice that I make on a daily basis. In regards to provisions for my family, I choose to worry and fret about where and how much money is going to be available for us. I choose to only look into the future, and refuse to look to the past where there has been enough.

Not an abundance but enough. I imagine this is my chief complaint about the past (which is really my sadness veiled in cynicism): God does not give me enough to ensure tomorrow is safe. He gives me enough for today. Which means that today is taken care of. All I have to do is remember that yesterday God did the same thing. I’m not only speaking about money or food, I’m referring to God’s provision of his grace, mercy, and continual offer of delight in me, his child.

The other message I heard at 3 that morning was that God gave his people, the exiled Israelites, enough for one day. Not one day plus, or two, but for one day. It’s comforting to know that they forgot, too. Even more comforting to know that their forgetting had absolutely zero effect on the mana showing up tomorrow.

This is the beauty of this human journey: Our humanness does not change God’s divinity.

To forget is to be human.
Looking at it this way reminds me of an exchange between two characters in a book I read a few years ago, A Shifting Affliction. The Author’s therapist told her that she could call him at any time, day or night. The first time she called him in the middle of the night, she apologized for interrupting his sleep. He calmly responded that being woken up gives him the gift of falling asleep again.

Similarly, forgetting affords us the ability to remember again. When we remember, we get to exhale and rest all over again.

For you and your relationship, whether you’re married or not, remembering offers you the opportunity to revisit the forgotten. Sometimes this will be a joyous occasion as you laugh and cry about those sweet moments together. Other times, you’ll be faced with remembering difficulties and times of conflict.

Remember this:

God is present and enough for you in the glory and depravity of you and your relationship. You have to be present to see him.

无声胜有声

工作只是一个方程式, 每个人都有属于自己的工作范围和责任。也许我们的处世方式需要更改，也许我们的处理方式需要更婉转一些。职场上形形色色的人太多，意见也非常多，不是一个简单的动作就会被大家认同。简单的一个小黑点画在一张白纸上，会有人看见那个黑点而已，会有人看见白纸。白纸占了95%的空间，但是大多数都只看见黑点而已。同样的道理，很多人只看见别人的缺点，再把那个缺点放大好几倍。这样有完没完的游戏，一直打转不停。

也许又是我们的出发点是好的，但是在别人的耳里听到确实是另外一件事。听的人或许又会有别的意思。

感叹

不知不觉四月了，时间真的过得太快。一切好像刚刚发生一样。除了工作忙碌，生活还是很忙碌。有时自己在忙些什么都不知道， 很多事情都等待着去处理。是因为处事太慢还是不懂得善于利用时间？时间一分一秒的过， 一日复一日的生活，像是过着复印机的日子。回头想想以往在大学的生活过的多么的多姿多彩，生活过得非常充实。出来社会的日子就变得非常不一样。 随着年龄的生长，我们的责任也一样跟着有增无减。生活的压力，工作的压力也随着增加。每个人在不同的人生阶段有着不一样的生活，就让一切顺利顺心。愿快乐生活每一天！！！

NATO

上人有一句静思语：看人不顺眼就是自己修养不够。。
从小至今，我没有看不顺眼的人，只是觉得自己和某某人的缘分不是很好，又或许不是很熟习，所以有时会和其他人不多话。。可是最近遇上了一个真得让我很讨厌的人，真得看他不顺眼。只要听见他说话，就觉得非常刺耳。。。 原因是他每一次所说的话都是废话，听了让人都会“火冒三丈”。

举个例子：他很喜欢在休息的时间找人，并吩咐他人工作。有或是在办公室里打电话给你，然后大声地说: "xxx,你现在在喝茶啊?? 我很忙哩,忙到连喝茶的时间都没有!! 你可以快点喝了茶上来找我吗??" 此外，自己的本分没有做，却把自己该做的事推给别人做。。。就是因为有这些人，把小事演变成复杂的事，拖延工作的进展。。。
还有更可笑的事，遇上问题该解决的事他就一直拖延。。。。 可以把那件事拖到一个月后才去做。但是，对于那些芝麻小事问题，他就马上自愿去做。总而言之，可以说是"NATO"!!!!

另一种滋味

突然之间爱上写部落格，很奇怪吧。。不过，把发生在四周的有趣事情记载着也有另一种滋味。。。
也许，现在这个阶段觉得自己做的好，十年后的自己再回头看看自己，也许会发现自己改变了很多？？ 或是还在停留在那个阶段？？？？

最近生活过得很充实，很多事情等着我去处理。。。 很多事情需要去找资料。。。 忙碌的生活里，总觉得自己每天都在跟时间赛跑。。 转眼间，一个星期又一个星期的过了。。。。 每一天开开心心的生活，让自己的人生更精彩！！！

This Call LIFE

Communication playing a very important role no matter in career, in our life, in the relationship or etc. Sometime, I'm thinking of why a simple task can be so complicated to someone? Is because wrong message passing down or wrong interpretation? Sometime, the truth is the people not follow the correct method and make the simple become complicated.

Life is so colorful, just because that people making it to be more attraction. Different people have their own mind and own opinion, nothings is absolutely correct or absolutely wrong. Sometime, an issue can be various of answer just came from different mind set. But no matter how, it shall have a bottom line or guide line to get the answer.

Everything can be settle just depend how you think of it. One Chinese proverb mentioned that "天下无难事， 只怕有心人“！

Don't Take for Granted

时间过得真快，转眼间已经是2012年3月了。。很久没有写写部落各，原因就是太久没有写文章，写部落各也是三分钟热度。。可是有时写写部落各来发泄好让自己的心情可以平复。。。
工作了五年多，职场上形形色色的人到处都有，只会说不会做，喜欢耍太极拳，喜欢名利等等。。。。。
去年来了一个从InfeXXXX的工程师，听起来也觉得应该非常有经验吧。实际上却是是相反的。。。
国有国法，家有家规，当然厂也有厂规。。。 他每次就是喜欢制造很多不必要的“垃圾”，该做的事不去做，不该做的事且偏偏喜欢去做。喜欢把自己的工作“分派”给其他人，然后告诉全世界他非常的“忙碌”！！！不仅如此，每次喜欢做芝麻绿豆小事而不做好自己的本分！！最糟的是每次把事情弄得一团糟，每个人都被他“耍”得团团转。。。
慈悲的上帝，请您救救可怜的我们吧！！！！