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2011-12-07T21:05:00.001+08:00

Michael Bublé - White Christmas

2011-12-07T17:52:00.000+08:00

Merry Christmas to everyone!!!

The 5 Love Languages

2011-12-07T17:21:00.001+08:00

Dr. Gary Chapman with more than 30 years of experience as a marriage counselor. He has helped couple at every stage of marriage and at pivotal points in their relationships.
Dr. Chapman noticed a pattern: everyone he had ever counseled had a “love language,” a primary way of expressing and interpreting love. He also discovered that, for whatever reason, people are usually drawn to those who speak a different love language than their own.

Of the countless ways we can show love to one another, five key categories, or five love languages, proved to be universal and comprehensive—everyone has a love language, and we all identify primarily with one of the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

The 5 Love Languages® has helped countless couples identify practical and powerful ways to express love, simply by using the appropriate love language. Many husbands and wives who had spent years struggling through marriages they thought were loveless discovered one or both spouses had long been showing love through messages that weren’t getting through. By recognizing their different love languages, they witnessed the rebirth of the love they thought had been gone for good.

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

"Quote from The 5 Love Languages from author Dr Gary Chapman"

7件抗衰老的大事

2011-10-20T13:01:00.000+08:00

《黄帝内经》中说：女子到了7岁，肾气盛旺了起来，乳齿更换，头发开始茂盛。14岁时，天癸产生，任脉通畅，太冲脉旺盛，月经按时来潮，具备了生育子女的能力。21岁时，肾气充满，真牙生出，牙齿就长全了。28岁时，筋骨强健有力，头发的生长达到最茂盛的阶段，此时身体最为强壮。此后身体开始慢慢衰老，如果你从28岁才开始抗衰那可就晚了，以下的7件大事，最好从25岁就开始做起! 1、补充纤维素这个时期女性经常会有便秘、肥胖等苦恼。纤维素可以令女性免去后顾之忧，它在通便、排毒、降血脂、防治肥胖方面功效卓着。常见食品的纤维素含量如下：蔬菜类：笋类的含量最高，笋干的纤维素含量达到30-40%，辣椒超过40%。菌类(干)：纤维素含量最高，松蘑接近50%，30%以上的按照从多到少的排列为：发菜、香菇、银耳、木耳。水果：红果干含量最高，接近50%，其次有桑椹干、樱桃、酸枣、黑枣、大枣、小枣、石榴、苹果、鸭梨。 2、补钙中国住平易近逐日相宜摄入量标准(DRI)以元素钙为单位计较，为800~1200毫克。专家证实，女性28岁以后，身体中的钙每年以0.1%-0.5%的速度减少。中国人的伙食含钙量低，以是天天的钙摄入量每每不敷。是以，您还应分外补充元素钙600毫克摆布，才华餍足逐日所需钙质。含钙食物：日常多服用牛奶、海带和虾皮、豆制品、动物骨头、蔬菜、补钙药物。 3、早晨对养生抗衰很重要 1）每天吃早餐它能有效地促进新陈代谢，保持血管和免疫系统年轻，它最好包括谷类食物、水果、奶制品。建议爱美女性早餐最佳选择：一杯豆浆(酸奶)+两片全麦面包+鸡蛋+ 胡萝卜(其它水果)。这只是个例子，也不是绝对的，可以根据自身的需要组合添加，但最好要保持每天的早餐里面有：1份豆类(奶类)+1份杂粮五谷类+1份禽蛋类+1份蔬菜水果类。 2）不急于起床早晨醒来后，伸伸懒腰，让脊柱也有“苏醒”的时间，这可以避免腰痛，保持良好的姿态。 4、每晚按时睡觉最好的睡眠是每天都有规律地睡7~8个小时。一般来说，睡眠通常有3种姿势，仰卧、侧卧和俯卧。而对女性来说，最好的睡姿是向右侧卧。 5、28岁之前稳定的自己体重最好保持在健康体重状态，如果要减肥，最好在28岁之前完成。另外，经历生育后，你的体重已经不能和20多岁时相比，这时在减肥的话，是需要持久的耐心，不能快速减肥。 6、建设优质性生活一流的年龄缩减剂，它能舒缓压力，放松心情。夫妻间的安全性生活增加到116次将会使你的真正年龄年轻1.6岁。 7、服用维生素C和维生素E 每天补充超过1200毫克的维生素C，400国际单位维生素E。这是两种最重要的抗氧化剂，联合服用能减少血管壁上的有害堆积物。

经典爱情名句 ♡ ♥

2011-08-05T11:50:00.002+08:00

(1) I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.. (1) 我爱你，不是因为你是一个怎样的人，而是因为我喜欢与你在一起时的感觉.. (2) No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won‘t make you cry.. (2) 没有人值得你流泪，值得让你这么做的人不会让你哭泣.. (3) The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can‘t have them.. (3) 失去某人，最糟糕的莫过于，他近在身旁，却犹如远在天边.. (4) Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.. (4) 纵然伤心，也不要愁眉不展，因为你不知是谁会爱上你的笑容.. (5) To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.. (5) 对于世界而言，你是一个人；但是对于某个人，你是他的整个世界.. (6) Don‘t waste your time on a man/woman, who isn‘t willing to waste their time on you.. (6) 不要为那些不愿在你身上花费时间的人而浪费你的时间.. (7) Just because someone doesn‘t love you the way you want them to, doesn‘t mean they don‘t love you with all they have.. (7) 爱你的人如果没有按你所希望的方式来爱你，那并不代表他们没有全心全意地爱你.. (8) Don‘t try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.. (8) 不要着急，最好的总会在最不经意的时候出现..

Messing with Marriage – Jerk Journals

2011-06-28T10:53:00.003+08:00

Forgiveness doesn’t journal Alice sped into my (Rich’s) office carrying a Starbuck’s and a notebook. After exchanging pleasantries, I asked how I could help. She opened a journal in which she had documented, in great detail, her husband’s faults. After twenty minutes, I interrupted. “Alice, why are you here?” “I want to solve the problems in my marriage,” she said, surprised. “Will you talk to Sam for me?” “Probably later, but the first step doesn’t involve him.” “Doesn’t involve him? Pastor, you haven’t heard a word I’ve been saying … he’s the problem!” “Alice, right now, you are the problem.” Over the next hour, we talked about forgiveness. Yes, Sam was a jerk and, yes, he needed to change, but there was little hope without her willingness to forgive. The “jerk journals” documented his sins—and hers. Forgiveness – the unfair act of letting go The Bible commands forgiveness. The Apostle Paul wrote to the church of Ephesus, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32). It’s hard to imagine anyone forgiving the way Christ forgave without having experienced God’s forgiveness in Christ. When we accept this forgiveness, understanding how much we did not deserve it, we begin to understand how to forgive others. We understand that forgiveness is not based on being worthy. Forgiveness is up to us Like so many of us, Alice was waiting for her husband to change before she forgave him. Forgiveness was not about him, however; it was about her. It is a mistake to think that forgiveness is based on the other person confessing with every nonverbal indication of deep remorse. It is a mistake to think that forgiveness is based on the other person suffering “enough.” Forgiveness is not about the offender. It’s about the person wronged. Alice never forgave, and her unwillingness led to a bitterness that blasted a cold chill through any warmth Sam tried to kindle. Their marriage lasted until the last child left for college. Alice filed for divorce and moved to another state. One of the reasons Alice never forgave her husband is because forgiveness is not natural to us. It seems so unfair. Forgiveness is not a pardon Forgiveness doesn’t erase the debt we owe. We might forgive a criminal, but that doesn’t mean a judge will take away the consequences. Forgiveness frees us to live in peace while it places the offender in the hands of a sovereign God. Forgiveness is not forgetting I (Marty) met with a husband who discovered that his wife was bulimic. He uncovered the problem by keeping a record of her excuses for missing meals, for calling in sick to work, for her reoccurring irritableness, as well as unusual (binge-type) food purchases on her credit statements. By piecing together these events, he was able to identify a pattern that led him to the possibility that his wife was struggling with an eating disorder. The records he kept are gone now, but if each time he forgave her he had completely forgotten about the offense, he might have missed helping her. Although we may forget an offense, forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgiveness is letting God act One of the unique characteristics of Christianity is the belief that God is in control. We believe that he sees everything and doesn’t miss the bad things that others do to us. Because we believe this, we are able to move away from revenge. Christians are cautioned not to “get even” as the world might. The Bible teaches that revenge is not an option. God will right all the wrongs. Trust him to do it. God sees the heart and motives, and his justice is always fair. One of the reasons we can forgive is because we have faith that God is a better judge than we could ever be. Forgiveness frees us We will never be able to find compassion and kindness in our hearts towards those who have wronged us until we let the grievance go. Once we let it go, a burden is lifted and we begin to experience life again. One of the reasons Alice had stopped living was because she was tethered by the burden of years of abuse. The abuse had become an anchor holding her fast in the breakwater of bitterness. If she would have forgiven her husband, she would have experienced the freedom to love again. Even if her marriage eventually wrecked, she could have experienced some degree of respite and vibrancy. Forgiveness is the scent the rose leaves on the heel that crushes it.” ~ John Arnott Forgiving is not the same as trusting If a person borrows your car and has an accident which destroys the car, you can forgive him. The next time he asks to borrow the car, because you have forgiven him, you can still hand him the keys. If he has another accident, you can forgive him, but you probably will not give him the keys the next time he asks. Although he’s been forgiven, you no longer trust him. The first crash was an incident. The second was the beginning of a pattern. Once the pattern surfaced, your trust disappeared. Forgiveness is free. Trust is earned. If you are experiencing forgiveness issues in a relationship, let us suggest some action points. Don’t ignore the red flags If you asked Beth what she would have done differently in her relationship with Gene, she probably would have said, “I wouldn’t ignore all the clues about Gene’s unfaithfulness.” I (Rich) have a theory that says that if you ignore the red flags, they become banners. Don’t react, respond Beth could have reacted and divorced Gene immediately. Fortunately, she didn’t. She thought it through and asked him to move out instead. Had she not responded, Gene would have been tempted to continue to play his games (and with his track record, he probably would have yielded to temptation again). Reacting creates wounds that make resolution even more difficult. Don’t react (unless someone’s safety is at stake). Unpack the bag Some people carry the baggage of resentment and bitterness so long, they can’t unpack it. They’re miserable. There is only one solution: We forgive and forgive until we unpack the bag. Name it You can’t forgive something you can’t identify. It may be painful to admit how your trust was damaged, but you have to name it to forgive it. After Christmas, I (Marty) met with a young husband who, for three years, would not name the offense that affected his relationship with his wife. This January, when he named it (FYI “flirtation”) he was startled to discover a deep insecurity his wife had carried for the same number of years. As he named and forgave the offense, he began to work on her insecurity (romantic gifts, walks, dinners and talks). Today, the flirtation is gone – unless you count her actions toward him! Admit your part Many spouses of alcoholics admit later that they enabled the drinking. What is your part in the damaged trust? Give it to God An authentic plea will bring God’s assistance and power. Those prayers followed by obedience – by, in this case, forgiveness – bring His special blessing. Throw it away I (Rich) ask people to write the offense down and throw it in the garbage can. “Now it’s gone,” I explain. “Stay out of the garbage.” (Of course, if your Jerk Journal is already written out like Alice’s, you should trash it, too.) Trade in your thoughts The Apostle Paul told the church in Philippi to think about things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable (Philippians 4:8). Trade your bitterness and any negative thoughts for these thoughts. Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” ~ Paul Boese Because Jerk Journals are the easiest books to write (and we’re all equipped to write them), understanding and sharing forgiveness are essential for a successful marriage.

Total Lunar Eclipse 2011: Moon to turn blood red for 100 minutes today

2011-06-15T13:55:00.007+08:00

The world will witness the longest total lunar eclipse today since 2000. Totality, the event where Earth’s shadow completely covers the moon, will last for about an hour and 41 minutes. The dramatic event will see the moon changing colours and turning blood red. Viewers outside of North America will be able to see the lunar eclipse, while the Europeans will miss the early stages of the event. What is a lunar eclipse? A lunar eclipse occurs when Earth lines up directly between the sun and the moon, blocking the sun's rays and casting a shadow on the moon. As the moon moves deeper and deeper into Earth's shadow, the moon changes colour before your very eyes, turning from gray to an orange or deep shade of red. Why does the moon turn blood red? The moon takes on this new colour because indirect sunlight is still able to pass through Earth's atmosphere and cast a glow on the moon. Our atmosphere filters out most of the blue coloured light, leaving the red and orange hues that we see during a lunar eclipse. Extra particles in the atmosphere, from say a recent volcanic eruption, will cause the moon to appear a darker shade of red. Can the lunar eclipse be seen directly with naked eyes? Unlike solar eclipses, lunar eclipses are perfectly safe to view without any special glasses or equipment.

藉口 No Excuse

2011-06-15T11:02:00.008+08:00

大家早！記得網路上有個「上班遲到最爛的藉口」調査，排行第一的是「塞車」。塞車是現代社會的大問題，毎個人都會曾遇上，這是能理解的；但每天同樣的要上班，自己應了解塞車的地段與時間，自己應該要避開或要提早出門。所以這樣的藉口，大家都覺得不算理由。其他如以「家族的某某往生了」作為請假藉口的也多；可憐的親戚，自己是怎麼死的都不知道…… 為了逃避被責怪，我想大家都各有千百個美麗的藉口；但與其要花３倍的頭腦、時間去掩飾錯誤，不如一句「對不起」承認自己的不是，對方反而容易接受。平常若是您遲到後，您是怎麼處理的呢？祝福大家的親戚都能安享天年。　　　　佛光山本栖寺滿潤法師藉口「嚴以律人，寬以待己」，這是很多人的通病，因此每當見到別人犯錯時，總是聲色俱厲的指責對方不是，而當自己有了過失，卻往往找來很多藉口搪塞、脫罪。藉口通常用於為自己的過錯或不當行為辯解，例如自己無法兌現諾言時，就說是時間不夠，或是因緣不具。有時候客人來訪，自己不想和他見面，就以生病或是謊稱外出為藉口，拒不見面。 1937年日本發動蘆溝橋事變，藉口走失一位日本兵，要到中國的營房檢查，被中國軍隊拒絕，因此掀起中日戰爭；三國時期，孫權藉口招劉備為妹婿，希望趁機討回荊州，但最後孫權的計謀未能得逞，不但賠了夫人又折兵。藉口就是找個理由為自己的行為卸責、脫罪，但是能否成功，就看個人的本領了。至於人經常為那些原因找藉口呢？一、掩飾錯誤，要找藉口：家裡請客，先生交代要用上好的菜餚待客，但是太太忘記了日期，事前沒有採買備辦，只有藉口說：今天市場沒有賣菜，只好在冰箱裡找些備用的菜色來將就了。用這種理由，既可掩飾自己待客不周的失禮，又能為自己的錯誤找到台階下。二、消除尷尬，要找藉口：出席會議遲到了，覺得不好意思，只得找個藉口說「路上交通堵塞」，意即遲到並非我不守時，而是交通問題所造成，是不得已的事。在朋友聚會的場合，不期然遇到了一個已經交惡的朋友，為免尷尬，只有藉口臨時有事，匆匆離去。三、自我原諒，要找藉口：年輕人立志要發憤讀書，發願要好好做一番大事，但是讀書時不想讀，做事時不想做，還說：今天天氣太熱了，等到明天涼快一些再說。本來今天要到三十里外去拜訪一位客戶，但是懶得走路，就說：今天所穿的鞋子不適合長途跋涉，等明天換一雙鞋子再去。人總是為自己找藉口，今天不能，還有明天，此時不能，還有其他時候，藉口多了，很多事就難以成辦。四、緩和氣氛，要找藉口：大家正興高采烈的在談話，忽然碰觸到敏感的政治話題，眼看著政黨立場不同的朋友即將翻臉，這時旁邊機警的人趕快改變話題，或是乾脆藉口今天有事，聚會到此結束，改日擇期再聚，藉以緩和緊繃的氣氛。五、製造事端，要找藉口：鄰居相處失和，一直想找個機會表達自己的不滿，這時就得找個藉口，譬如說：你家的污水經常流到我家的水溝來、你家的樹葉經常飛落到我家的庭院裡、你家的孩子打我家的狗、我家的雞在你家下蛋……等等。如此不一而足的藉口，大興問罪之師，焉能不起糾紛。一般人找藉口都是為自己的錯誤辯解，這樣的藉口只會害了自己，還是少用為好。但是有的父母希望兒女用功讀書，努力上進，也會機巧的利用種種藉口，給予鼓勵。例如告訴兒女：只要你考取托福留學，這個暑假就讓你出國旅遊。或說，只要你把菸酒的壞習慣戒掉，就准許你與要好的同學交往。父母能如此善巧的引導兒女，這就是「藉口」的妙用。作者：佛光山　星雲大師

微波加熱後溶量更高 PVC保鮮膜更毒

2011-06-14T13:22:00.000+08:00

民眾怕黑心起雲劑吃下肚，但學者研究發現，以PVC（聚氯乙烯）保鮮膜包覆油脂食物，所溶出的DEHP塑化劑，遠高于歐盟每人每日容忍攝取量，且微波加熱后的溶出量更高，民眾少用為宜。　一般人以為，以塑膠容器盛裝食物，只要不加熱、不裝熱食，就不會溶出塑化劑，殊不知此觀念錯誤。只要盛裝含油脂食物，無論哪一種塑膠材質，都會溶出塑化劑。　台灣陽明大學環境與職業衛生研究所教授陳美蓮，週日發表去年11月完成的調查，發現台灣人使用塑膠容器、包裝時，接觸食物的情形相當普遍。　她的研究團隊以PVC保鮮膜包覆油脂食物，在攝氏25度常溫下，DEHP平均溶出量為每公斤食物1.98毫克；至于PE（聚乙烯）塑膠袋或保鮮膜，溶出量僅0.05毫克；PET（聚對苯二甲酸乙二醇酯）容器為0.06毫克。　PVC保鮮膜的溶出量，幾乎是PE材質的40倍。　陳美蓮以體重60公斤的成人為例，每天吃3公斤用PVC保鮮膜包覆的油脂食物，DEHP攝取量達5.94毫克，遠超過歐盟每人每日容忍攝取量3毫克的標準。

Lovin' Mid Month Special BUY 1 FREE 1 ala carte medium French Fries Coupon.

2011-06-13T16:26:00.003+08:00

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4 Surprising Fat-Burning Foods

2011-06-13T16:26:00.001+08:00

When it comes to burning fat, not all foods are created equally. We all know we should eat more vegetables, cut back on sugar, avoid fast food, among other dietary changes to lose weight. But simply adding the following surprising fat-burners to your diet may also help speed your weight loss. Proven to speed fat loss, they are an excellent addition to a healthy weight loss program. Of course, if you suffer from any medical condition or allergy you should consult with your doctor or a nutritionist before making any dietary changes. The four surprising fat-burning foods include: 1. Nuts: According to Harvard research, eating 3 ounces of nuts daily helps people lose one inch of fat from their waist per month. The scientists at Harvard also found that people who eat 3 ounces of nuts daily were more likely to keep the fat off. Of course you should avoid salted nuts. Choose raw nuts that are kept refrigerated to prevent the healthy fats they contain from going rancid. 2. Fish and Seafood: Recent research shows that when you eat fish or seafood, you’ll stay full for two hours longer than you normally would. Fish and seafood increase the body’s production of a hormone called leptin that shuts down hunger pangs between meals. 3. Avocado: Loaded with healthy Omega 9 fatty acids, the same fats found in olive oil, olives, and macadamia nuts, avocado’s Omega 9s speed the conversion of fat into energy and boost the rate of metabolism. 4. Coconut: Coconut is rich with medium chain triglycerides (MCFAs) which increase the liver’s rate of metabolism by up to 30%, according to some experts. They also help keep you full so you’re less likely to snack on junk food. Coconut oil frequently aids the functioning of the thyroid gland. Coconut oil, coconut milk (not the low fat variety), coconut flour, and shredded (unsweetened) coconut all contain this important fat.

爱睡懒觉的人

2011-06-13T16:19:00.000+08:00

爱睡懒觉的人―――不会随便爱上一个人。爱睡懒觉的人―――很专一又很滥情。一旦真正喜欢上一个人就会很致命，一直把你牢记在心。爱睡懒觉的人―――很容易被感动。爱睡懒觉的人―――很敏感，看似什么都不计较、不细心，其实是在包容你，所以会装作什么都不知道。爱睡懒觉的人―――很正义，讨厌虚伪、谎言，讨厌欺骗。爱睡懒觉的人———为了让别人好过，喜欢用谎言但绝对没有心眼不图你什么东西，是善意的爱睡懒觉的人―――吃软不吃硬，要知道爱睡懒觉的人脾气很硬，不会允许别人的不信任和挑战。爱睡懒觉的人―――很重感情，只要是真心认定的朋友，都会真心对待。爱睡懒觉的人―――很浪漫，最讨厌软弱拖拉的人，更讨厌自以为是的人。爱睡懒觉的人―――不习惯主动和别人套近乎。爱睡懒觉的人―――决定要做的事，就会坚持到底。爱睡懒觉的人―――可以看着喜欢的人转身离开，望着他的背影泪流满面，却不敢开口挽留。爱睡懒觉的人―――很开朗，不开心的时候会故意隐藏自己，总是想把自己装的更独立更坚强。爱睡懒觉的人―――其实没那么重的生理洁癖，只是精神洁癖更严重。爱睡懒觉的人―――表面坚强，嘴巴硬，其实内心很容易受到伤害。爱睡懒觉的人―――总是很任性和小孩子气的固执，即使是错，下次还是固执。爱睡懒觉的人―――很胆小又害怕失败，但表现出来的都是强悍的一面。爱睡懒觉的人―――生气的小事很快就会忘记，不记仇。爱睡懒觉的人―――别人对自己的好会铭记于心，有恩必报。爱睡懒觉的人―――不善表达自己的情感，所以常常用沉默取代表达。爱睡懒觉的人―――最不能接受朋友的不信任、出卖和背叛。爱睡懒觉的人―――现在的生活很迷茫，找不到出口，但对未来坚定而充满希望。

Preparing For Marriage

2011-06-13T14:16:00.002+08:00

For a number of years, I have wanted to write a book on preparation for marriage. I really believe that if we can help couples prepare for marriage, then they can be more successful. Let's face it most people spend far more time preparing for their vocation than preparing for their marriage. Perhaps that's why they are more successful in their vocations than in their marriages. Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married is my attempt to help couples get ready for marriage. I looked back on my own life and asked, "What do I know now that I wish I had known then?" I think if someone had told me these things, my marriage would have been much easier. I hope you'll learn from my mistakes. Euphoric Feelings Would it surprise you if I told you that "being in-love is not an adequate foundation for marriage?" It is highly possible to 'fall in love' with someone you should not marry. Many couples believe that if they are 'in love' then they will always be 'in love'. The reality is that the 'in love euphoria' last for an average of two years. That's why many couples stop dating after two years. They have lost the feelings so why keep dating. In fact, they may have much in common, and be very suited for each other, but because they believe that they must retain those 'in love' feelings they give up on the relationship. Parental Patterns Have you ever heard this saying, "Like Mother like daughter." and "Like Father like son?" There's some truth is both of those statements. We are greatly influenced by our moms and dads. If you are seriously dating someone, I encourage you to spend time with his or her parents. What you see in his dad is likely what you will see in him ten years from now. Does that mean we are destined to be like our parents? No, but it does mean that if we want to be different, now is the time to work on it. Let's identify the strengths and weaknesses of our parents before we get married and then ask: What do I want to change? And, what steps can I take to make sure I don't duplicate the things I dislike? Disagreements One of the things I wish I'd known is how to solve disagreements without arguing. Karolyn and I had no plan for handling conflicts. So, we spent a lot of time arguing. Arguments always lead down hill. Conflicts are not a sign you have married the wrong person. They simply affirm that you are human. The key to solving disagreements is to become an empathetic listener. Try to see the world through the other person's eyes. Respect their thoughts and feelings even if you don't agree. "I think I can understand what you are saying, and it makes a lot of sense." Now, you are not an enemy but a friend who understands. Now you can look for a solution that will be good for both of you. Apologies After spending a lifetime counseling other couples, I am convinced that there are no healthy marriages without apology and forgiveness. Apologizing is a sign of maturity. And, forgiveness is a godly response to a sincere apology. However, what one person considers an apology is not what another person considers an apology. He says, "I'm Sorry," and she is thinking, "You certainly are. Is there anything else you would like to say?" He thinks he has apologized and she is waiting for him to apologize. I have discovered that there are five ways in which people apologize in this country. Learning the apology language of the other person can make it much easier for them to forgive you. What I Know One evening about six weeks after our wedding, Karolyn and I were engaged in a full-fledged argument. In the midst of the argument, she went to a closet, got her raincoat, slammed the front door and walked out into the pouring rain. My first thought was, "Why doesn't she stay and fight like a man?" My second thought was, "What have I done?" I wish I'd known how to listen, how to respect her ideas and feelings, how to treat her with love, instead of demanding that she agree with me. There is so much I've learned in our 40 plus years of marriage. Talk About Roles About six weeks after we got married, I said to Karolyn, "Honey, the toilet is getting dirty." To which she responded, "I know, I was wondering when you're going to clean it." "Me, I don't know how to clean toilets." "I can teach you," she said. Have you thought about who will do what after you are married? Who will buy the groceries? Cook the meals? Mop the floors? Vacuum the carpets? Wash the dishes? Mow the grass? And walk the dog? Deciding these matters before you get married will save you a lot of frustration after the wedding. Talk About Money Are you thinking about getting married? Do you have a plan for handling your money? Do you know how much debt your 'spouse to be' has accumulated? Do you know how much they have in savings. Once you get married, how much of your regular income do you plan to save? How much do you plan to give away? Who will balance the checkbook each month? These are the kind of questions that should be answered before you get married. Money is a huge area of conflict among married couples. Much of this could be avoided if we talk honestly about how we will handle money after we get married. Talk About Sex I wish I'd known, before we got married, that mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic. I had the idea, "I'm fully male. She is fully female. We have a high level of sexual attraction for each other. What more could we need?" Answer? A lot more! You would think that with all the explicit sex talk we find on TV and radio that sex would not be a problem in marriage. In reality, sex becomes a battlefield for many couples. Information and communication are the keys to finding mutual sexual satisfaction in marriage. Sex was God's idea. You will not find the answer in Hollywood movies, or TV sitcoms. Talk About Faith When couples contemplate marriage, religion needs to be near the top of the list of matters that need to be discussed. Mankind is incurably religious. There are no cultures that have not developed a system of beliefs about the non-material world. These religious beliefs greatly influence the behavior of those who believe them. Therefore, if you are thinking about getting married, I urge you to discuss your beliefs about spiritual matters. The Scriptures ask, "Can two walk together if they do not agree?" The answer is; "not very well." In my book Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married, I try to help couples build a solid foundation upon which to build a successful marriage. If you or someone you know find the information in this newsletter helpful and want to dive deeper into the topics discussed, then I want to encourage you to pick up a copy of the book. It's never too early to work towards a marriage that lasts a lifetime!

Pieces Cruise Trip Slideshow

2011-05-27T00:54:00.002+08:00

Pieces Cruise Trip Slideshow: "TripAdvisor™ TripWow ★ Pieces Cruise Trip Slideshow ★ to Malaysia. Stunning free travel slideshows on TripAdvisor"

Buy 1 Get 1 Free Mc Chicken

2011-05-18T14:26:00.007+08:00

McDonald is having promotion with Buy 1 Get 1 Free Mc Chicken at 18th May 2011. I believe most of the human will get attraction when see Buy 1 Get 1 Free Mc Chicken, but every promotion sure have term and condition. According to the coupon: 1. The promotion is only valid at 18th May 2011 from time 11am until 12 midnight. 2. This promotion only valid in Peninsular Malaysia. 3. Not valid with any other coupon offers. 4. One Free McChicken * (ala carte) is only valid with one purchase of ala carte McChicken. 5. Coupon print out size smaller than 11.5cm x 21cm will not accepted. Are you going to have ur lunch / dinner / supper today?? Does it’s worth to get this??? Be a smart customer!!!

无题

2011-05-14T23:43:00.003+08:00

时间过得真快，转眼之间一日复一日，我们的年龄也随着有增无减。我们每天都为了生活而生活，每天都为了工作了忙碌。早午晚九的生活不断地重复着，是为了能够有更好的生活素质还是为了满足自己的欲望？人类为了有更好的生活素质而背负更多的债务是否值得？有时觉得这样不是自相矛盾吗？人生是以生命为研究对象的，人生是一个过程，是一切与你生命有关的过去‘现在‘将来‘未来的诸多元素的集合。。。。面对每件事，都应以快乐情绪来承受。人生就像一出戏，无论你演的好与坏都是要落幕的。在两万多天的日子里，你要演示出自己生命的乐章。精彩的掌声也好，落幕的唏嘘也罢，真正属于你的是自己在两万多天里的感受。享受快乐生活，才是生命最根本的意义。要记住。。。。你改变不了环境，但你可以改变自己；你改变不了事实，但你可以改变态度；你改变不了过去，但你可以改变现在；你不能控制他人，但你可以掌握自己；你不能预测明天，但你可以把握今天；你不能样样顺利，但你可以事事尽心；你不能左右天气，但你可以改变心情；你不能选择容貌，但你可以展现笑容；你不能延长生命的长度，但你可以决定生命的宽度。

Siao Lang

2011-05-14T17:45:00.005+08:00

It's were few weeks I'm having my lunch in canteen with my colleague, the reason we having our lunch in canteen because the weather outside is "too hot" and lazy to have lunch outside with this hot temperature. Yesterday, one of our ex-colleague called us to have lunch at nearby KFC fast food restaurant. We use to chit chat on the way to KFC. While we are quiting up to purchase our lunch, we still chit chat among ourselves, an indian muslim in front of us turn her head and scolding us "bising bising, if you want to talk then talk at home lah, dun talk here". we were stunned for a few seconds there, really unlucky to meet such a so so so no manner people. What's a "siao people" we met..

證嚴上人開示(「獨一無二」的婚禮 )

2011-01-28T16:23:00.001+08:00

外在的境界包括財、色、名、食、睡等，都會引誘人心入迷——不斷追求享受，好還要更好、快還要更快、多還要更多……欲望無止盡。我曾聽說，有位貴婦穿了一套十幾萬元的衣服去參加喜宴，開心地向人炫耀：「這件衣服全世界只有一件，獨一無二，所以才會那麼貴。」贏得了大家的讚美之聲。喜宴開始了，賓客陸續入座，貴婦突然氣沖沖地要離開，原來同桌有人跟她穿同樣品牌、同樣款式的衣服，她那件衣服不是獨一無二。花費十幾萬元，只是想要買一個被人讚美的歡喜；沒想到那件衣服卻不是「獨一無二」，當遇到那個「二」，她自然生氣。這是真人實事，也是迷茫的人生。人生莫被面子或名聲左右，應該做自己的主人，做真正有價值的事情。每一位受證的慈濟人，身上所穿的委員旗袍、慈誠西裝，不是獨一「無二」，而是無數」，全球已有超過六萬人穿上同樣的「柔和忍辱衣」，人人發自內心歡喜。三年前，高雄慈濟志工吳永宏和郭庭聿，在佛誕日當天穿著慈誠西裝和委員「八正道」制服，步入結婚禮堂——環保站。看到新娘、新郎來到環保站，大家趕緊為他們放炮——用銅罐子鏗鏗鏘鏘聲響代替鞭炮；還有一整串飲料鐵罐綁在腳踏車尾，讓他們兩人騎著走當作放鞭炮；素食喜宴收的禮金，他們捐作慈濟甘肅扶貧基金，還送每位賓客一支竹筒，願人人響應「竹筒歲月」；他們的蜜月旅行，就是到慈濟醫院當志工…… 沒有豐盛華麗的排場，人人卻是用最虔誠的心為他們祝福。我相信這才是真正與眾不同、「獨一無二」的婚禮，值得佩服，也值得祝福；懂得克勤、克儉，才是人間真正的幸福。

善用五大ＥＱ笑看人生

2011-01-25T16:40:00.002+08:00

當遇到不愉快的事情或不幸事件時，要學習自我擺脫，自我緩解，祛除不良心理情緒，下列五大方法進行EQ的舒暢快樂。 1.宣洩法：向了解自己的老朋友或老伴訴說，將心中鬱悶情緒宣洩出來，將會減輕壓抑，鬆弛情緒，找到新的平衡。對方應正確地開導，客觀分析，儘量化解矛盾，寬慰病人，幫助病人從憂鬱中解脫出來，切不可火上加油。 2.轉移法：脫離不愉悅環境，外出旅遊，世界各地人文景色，接觸大自然美景，心曠神怡，心胸開闊，忘掉痛苦。 3.回升法：以良好的家庭信仰，堅強的意志克服不良情緒，遇有不愉快的事，用智來克制自己，樂觀看待人生，凡事一分為二，讓壞事變好事，在任何困難面前，想得通，看得開，放得下。 4.自我安慰，自我暗示：在發生不良心理情緒時，要借助自己內心的語言，反覆提醒暗示自己，以健康的心理情緒抑制不良心理情緒的發生、發展。遇有生氣的事情，暗示自己「要冷靜」、「不要衝動」；剛退休時，反覆提醒自己「這是自然規律」、「我退下來有利於下一代社會發展」；生病時反覆暗示「我能戰勝疾病」、「我一定能恢復健康」。氣功冥想也是一種自我暗示，以一念替代萬念，如意守丹田，口中唸出「快樂」、「幸福」。 5.建立心理防禦功能：以選擇性忽視法，即故意不去回憶以往自己受過的挫折、痛苦及羞辱，以免引起不良心理情緒反應；加強選擇性重視，即特別重視自己的優點、特長、成就，以鼓勵自己保持樂觀、自信、上進的積極心理，譬如說「金窩、銀窩不如自己的狗窩」，用笑看人生來脫離苦海。

人生需要適當的甜言蜜語

2011-01-25T16:31:00.001+08:00

「每個人生命都有高潮，大部份是經由別人的鼓勵而成的」黑幼龍說。一位漆布紡織公司老闆本來年年招待員工旅遊，今年初卻不再辦了，因為他覺得好無聊，每年花大筆錢，卻從無一個同仁跟他說，「好開心，謝謝老闆。」說這故事的黑幼龍(卡內基訓練專家)說，不要以為家人之間不需甜言蜜語，連媽媽這種愛心不求回報的工作，都渴望有被肯定的一天。全世界每天有40億人帶著空虛感入睡，就像我們每天都需要攝取食物一樣，我們每天也必須吸取讚美。有人說，「全世界有30億人每晚餓著肚子睡覺，卻有40億人帶著空虛感入睡，因為整天未曾得到一句鼓勵或肯定的話。」這番話有沒有說到你心裡？一天的盡頭，你跌坐在電視機前，握著遙控器一個一個頻道跳過去。沒有，沒有你要的東西；打開冰箱無意識的瀏覽食物，還是沒有什麼需要的…你的靈魂飢渴地想知道，你每天努力的活著，不是只為銀行存款與信用卡額度，而是你個人在這個地球上的價值和意義。黑幼龍自己就獲得小學國文老師的鼓勵，連別班老師都知道他會寫好文章，促使他非但每週都盼望上作文課，後來也走上寫文章、演講、辦訓練的事業。「一句話會影響人一輩子，很多人，尤其是做老師、做主管的人，都能對別人發揮影響力，即便他本人並未大富大貴，卻永遠受人感激」他激動地說。從小不敢在別人面前開口說話或唱歌的心理學教授吳靜吉，剛到美國讀書時，指導教授慢慢地一個字一個音節的問吳靜吉：「你在台灣大四時試教什麼科目？」在離台之前從沒講過英語的吳靜吉，為了避免誤解，用寫的回答：「English（英語）。」對方大聲笑起來，有兩秒鐘吳靜吉感到羞恥得無地自容，但從教授的笑聲與表情，吳靜吉意識他不是在嘲笑，果然他說：「我覺得你很幽默。」吳靜吉在《害羞．寂寞．愛》書中寫道：「這樣的評語對我的鼓勵相當大，我覺得好自在，居然可以用洋涇濱英語和他平等對談，他能這樣積極和欣賞的眼光來看待我，我為什麼還要害羞呢？這次談話經驗改變了我的一生，從此我開始學習面對專家臉不紅，面對權威敢溝通。」吳靜吉後來返台任教、創辦蘭陵劇坊、寫書與編書，影響了很多年輕人。一句讚美，讓一個放牛班的學生成為化學家；一句讚美，讓原本羞澀的留學生，成為廣受年輕人喜愛的心理學者；讚美的力量，鼓勵的火花，曾讓許多人的生命，有了奇蹟似的改變… 愛的溝通、優點的發現和傳達，是人活著的社會動機，也是講求人際取向的管理哲學所不可或缺的溝通方式。

A Reminder for Chinese New Year

2011-01-05T15:11:00.002+08:00

Make sure we don’t put these items into our CNY basket!! Pass the word around to other family members! I don’t want these items as CNY gifts either!!! Recently the MP for Titiwangsa Johari Bin Abdul Ghani has made it clear that he does not need the Chinese and Indians to win the Titiwangsa seat. He did a mathematical calculation that all he need is the 32,000 Malay voters and that is all. He made it very clear that the Chinese and Indians are a minority and they are nothing but Customers. Watch for yourself here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7lz0pZAKzH0 Ybhg Datuk Johari Bin Abdul Ghani is the Managing Director of CI Holdings Bhd the owners of Pemanis Sdn. Bhd. He came on the Board of this company on the 29th of November 2002. Well since are are nothing but mere Customers, and since he does NOT need the Chinese and the Indians, I suppose he also does not need our patronage on Pemanis Sdn Bhd products. Pemanis products are as follows and you may be familiar with some of them:- SOFT DRINKS : PEPSI, PEPSI MAX, PEPSI LIGHT, PEPSI TWIST, 7-UP, MIRINDA, FROST, EVERVESS, KICKAPOO, MOUNTAIN DEW, ISOTONIC DRINKS: REVIVE,REVIVE LIME BURST, EXCEL, GATORADE, GATORADE QUIET STORM; TEA: LIPTON ICE TEA, LIPTON GREEN TEA 9 COFFEE: BOSS ENERGY: STING ASIAN DRINKS: CHILL JUICE: TROPICANA TWISTER, TROPICANA 100% , TROPICANA JUICE PLUS WATER: BLEU , SHOT I trust you can spread this around and I suppose we know when we are not wanted and we also do not want their products. Gong Xi Fa Cai!

DO NOT EAT UNAGI

2010-12-28T10:33:00.001+08:00

To all JAPANESE food lovers. Please do no eat any unagi (japanese eel) for the time being. If you have some in the fridge, throw it away. The Singapore Agricultural Authority issued a warning today that it was recalling all eels from China. The unagi we get at the supermarket are from China. These eels had tested positive for carcinogen Malachite Green. Malachite Green had been used as a food preservative to keep germs, fungus and parasites in check until the early 1990s when it proved! m to cause cancer and was banned across the world. However, the material is still in use in some countries such as China because of its low price and good preservative effect. To play it safe, better not to eat any unagi sushi or dishes for the time being.

Dont Answer the Phone While It's Being Charged

2010-12-21T10:32:00.002+08:00

Don't answer a cellphone while it's being charged... Don't answer a cell phone while it is being CHARGED!! A few days ago, a person was recharging his cell phone at home. Just at that time a call came through and he attended to it; with the instrument still connected to the mains. After a few seconds electricity flowed into the cell phone unrestrained and the person was thrown to the ground with a heavy thud. His parents rushed into the room only to find him unconscious, with weak heartbeats and burnt fingers. He was rushed to the nearby hospital, but was pronounced dead on arrival. A Cell phone is a very useful modern invention. However, we must be aware that it can also be an instrument of death. Never use the cell phone while it is hooked to the mains! FORWARD THIS TO THE PEOPLE THAT MATTER IN YOUR LIFE, I JUST DID! Take care !

感恩的故事

2010-10-14T22:33:00.002+08:00

一名成績優秀的青年去申請一個大公司的經理職位。他通過了第一級的面試，董事長做最後的面試，做最後的決定。董事長從該青年的履歷上發現，該青年成績一貫優秀，從中學到研究生從來沒有間斷過。董事長問，你在學校裏拿到獎學金嗎？該青年回答，沒有。董事長問，是你的父親為您付學費嗎？該青年回答，我父親在我一歲時就去世了，是我的母親給我付的學費。董事長問，那你的母親是在那家公司高就？該青年回答，我的母親是給人洗衣服的。董事長要求該青年把手伸給他，該青年把一雙潔白的手伸給董事長。董事長問，你幫你母親洗過衣服嗎？該青年回答，從來沒有，我媽總是要我多讀書，再說，母親洗衣服比我快得多。董事長說，我有個要求，你今天回家，給你母親洗一次雙手，明天上午你再來見我。該青年覺得自己成功的可能很大，回到家後，高高興興地要給母親洗手，母親受寵若驚地把手伸給孩子。該青年給母親洗著手，漸漸地，眼淚掉下來了，因為他第一次發現，他母親的雙手都是老繭，有個傷口在碰到水時還疼得發抖。青年第一次體會到，母親就是每天用這雙有傷口的手洗衣服為他付學費，母親的這雙手就是他今天畢業的代價。該青年給母親洗完手後，一聲不響地把母親剩下要洗的衣服都洗了。當天晚上，母親和孩子聊了很久很久。第二天早上，該青年去見董事長。董事長望著該青年紅腫的眼睛，問到，可以告訴我你昨天回家做了些什麼嗎？該青年回答說，我給母親洗完手之後，我幫母親把剩下的衣服都洗了。董事長說，請你告訴我你的感受。該青年說，第一，我懂得了感恩，沒有我母親，我不可能有今天。第二，我懂得了要去和母親一起勞動，才會知道母親的辛苦。第三，我懂得了家庭親情的可貴。董事長說，我就是要錄取一個會感恩，會體會別人辛苦，不是把金錢當作人生第一目標的人來當經理。你被錄取了。這位青年後來果真工作努力，深得職工擁護，員工也都努力工作，整個公司業績大幅成長。假如一位孩子從小嬌生慣養，習慣了被人圍著寵著，什麼都是“我”第一，父母的辛苦都不知道，上班後，以為同事都應該聽他的，當了經理後，不知道員工的辛苦，還要怨天尤人。這樣的人，會有好的學校成績，會有得意風光的一時，但社會上的這類人，都不能成大事，都不會感覺到幸福，都要跌跟鬥，那父母是愛孩子呢還是害孩子呢？你可以讓你的孩子住大房子，吃大餐，學鋼琴，看大屏電視，但你在割草時，也要讓你的孩子在大太陽下拔拔野草，你在吃飯後，也要讓你的孩子洗洗碗，不是你沒有錢雇人，而是你真心愛孩子。你要讓孩子知道，即使父母掙不少錢，但早早的白髮，和那位洗衣服的母親沒有本質的差別。但更重要的是，要讓你的孩子學會感恩。

知己，情人，二奶，妻子，老婆是最惨的。每人一句都很经典，很真实，很有意思!

2010-10-05T13:30:00.002+08:00

知己：他和我之间不谈性情人：我们有机会才谈性二奶：他现在和我只谈性妻子：他今晚必须和我谈性知己：他喜欢我说的每一点儿情人：他喜欢我做的每一点儿二奶：他希望我麻烦少一点儿妻子：他希望我离他远一点儿知己：他见我哪都不疼情人：他见了我就心疼二奶：他见我后喊腰疼妻子：他见了我就头疼知己：他是我 0%的男人情人：他是我 30%的男人二奶：他是我 50%的男人妻子：他是我100%的男人知己：他不用喊我宝贝情人：他没人时喊我宝贝二奶：他好久没喊我宝贝妻子：他老在梦中喊别人宝贝知己：我们不谈转正情人：我没想过转正二奶：我天天想转正妻子：我看谁能转正知己：我们也许没机会牵手情人：我们在陌生城市才牵手二奶：我们在过马路时才牵手妻子：真后悔当初牵错了手知己：我们之间不谈钱情人：我也许会向他借钱二奶：我经常向他要钱妻子：我有机会就没收他的钱知己：我们之间有很多共同爱好情人：我们偶尔谈谈共同爱好二奶：交易是我们最大的共同爱好妻子：吵架是我们最大的共同爱好知己：我们上街喝茶后争着买单情人：我们上街喝咖啡后随意买单二奶：他上街就得给我买时装妻子：他上街只会给我买大米知己：我是他的糖情人：我是他的盐二奶：我是他的酒妻子：我是他的水知己：过节了我送他一句祝福情人：过节了我送他一条领带二奶：过节了我送他一夜妻子：过节了我送他一个白眼知己：我们也许没机会一起吃饭情人：我有时候请他吃饭二奶：他得经常请我吃饭妻子：我他妈天天给他做饭知己：我们探讨过关于穿鞋情人：我上周给他买了双鞋二奶：他上周给我买了双鞋妻子：他经常让我给擦皮鞋知己："想"是我给他的感觉情人："痒"是我给他的感觉二奶："晕"是我给他的感觉妻子："痛"是我给他的感觉知己：我是未出版情人：我是海外版二奶：我是纯盗版妻子：老娘是正版知己：我是他的风车情人：我是他偷的车二奶：我是他的出租车妻子：我是他的自行车知己：我们约会一般在电话里情人：我们约会一般在宾馆里二奶：我们约会一般在我的出租屋里妻子：我们约会一般在回忆里知己：我懂他的思想情人：我爱他的情调二奶：我爱他的钞票妻子：我爱他什么？知己：他烦恼的时候就想到我情人：他无聊的时候就想到我二奶：他喝醉的时候就想到我妻子：他生病的时候才想到我知己：他的MSN上有我情人：他的手机上有我二奶：他的大床上有我妻子：他的厨房里有我知己：我们之间无消费情人：我是他的低消费二奶：我是他的高消费妻子：老娘嫁给他纯属浪费知己：我们都有各自的孩子情人：我们都注意别有了孩子二奶：他害怕我有了他的孩子妻子：休想让我给他生第三个孩子知己：他的思绪是我给的情人：他的情感是我给的二奶：他的性致是我给的妻子：他的后代是我给的知己：走在街上我们肩并肩情人：走在街上我们手牵手二奶：睡在床上我们嘴对嘴妻子：睡在床上我们背靠背知己：他说我人好心善情人：他说我多情浪漫二奶：他说我花枝招展妻子：他说我蓬头垢面知己：我和他之间有千言万语情人：我和他之间是千丝万缕二奶：他今晚要派来千军万马妻子：我跟了他真是千辛万苦

你知道吗 ? 越爱越容易吵架。。

2010-10-05T13:28:00.001+08:00

吵架，我想大多数的情侣都会碰到过，彼此越是喜欢，而越容易吵架明明知道是很小的一点事，却到最后是那么的生气，互相挂掉电话，接下来就是冷战其实这个道理他一直都懂，他知道这是在乎的表现，所以他对她的爱从来就没有动摇过如果只有他那么想，那最后肯定有一方会承受不住的，因为他也不敢确定她是不是和他想的一样所以今天我就详细的把吵架分析一下，希望看了的人能够看懂，把话读透！相爱的男女朋友对方的一举一动都细细的看在眼里，会胡思乱想很正常的，所以，当你有了男（女）朋友之后请对其他异性保持一定距离. 好好的去珍惜你身边那位会约束你，会吃你醋的人吧不要觉得他（她）不讲道理，因为要讲理，那就做普通朋友好了，普通朋友不会约束你并且永远都会尽量顺着你，讲好听的给你。相爱的情人任何的吵闹，嫉妒，猜忌，孩子气，都是合理正常的。因为他（她）重视你，重视你们之间的一切才会情感敏感而强烈.如果现在的你，正因为你的男（女）朋友无理取闹而生气，请拿起电话打给他（她）吧冷战时期其实对方都想要给对方打电话，但互相也是在等着对方的电话，就是因为彼此都这么想所以既难受又生气，甚至越想越气，最后闹的是不可开交，所以在他遇到这种情况的时候他都是第一个说话的人，因为他知道她是那么的爱他，他也是那么的爱她，男人就应该让着自己心爱的女人这个因为换个角度想一想你也是幸福中的人啊！好好的珍惜你身边为了一点小事而吃醋生气的人吧，因为你拥有着这样的深深爱着你的人是——幸福！情人心里面容不下一粒沙子，哪怕是很小很小.真正爱你的人是容不下你和异性单独聊天或单独出去的。为什么要珍惜男（女）朋友？因为对方很爱你，会甘心情愿为你做很多事，很多普通朋友不会帮你做的事你的男（女）朋友都会为你去做。《打出来的男、女人嘴服，疼出来的男、女人心服。》总之吵架的根本原因就是真爱和在乎的混合体！！这可是一份最真最真的幸福噢~ 女人不吵了、不闹了、不叫了，就是真的不爱了女人说要离开，是伤心了，是你让他失望了. 女人明知道你们之间没有未来，却情愿留在你身边做个普通朋友，不是她太贱，只是她舍不得 . 女人故意在你面前提到别的男人，不是她花心，只是想要刺激一下你，让你多在乎她一点 . 女人不主动打电话、发信息给你，不是不想你，是她不够自信，你接到电话、短信时，是否也同样的想念她 . 如果女人不爱你，是不会对你发脾气的，不要报怨自己的女朋友脾气太怪，女人只对她爱的人发脾气. 女人总是在你面前假装很开心，不是她没心没肺，成天傻乐，只是为了在你面前留下最美的样子. 男人其实你不懂。。。。。。

Hot Chilli-HALAL

2010-06-14T15:28:00.002+08:00

These are actual peppers from a garden. They are called 'Peter Peppers'.. The world’s most offensive-looking plant When I first saw its picture, I thought it’s just another photoshopped hoax, but digging deeper, I was surprised to discover that it’s a real plant, usually called the Peter Pepper, scientific name capsicum annuum var. annuum ‘Peter’. It’s native to Louisiana and Texas . It’s been called many other names, including Chilli Willy and Penis Chilli; and has been judged “Most Pornographic Pepper” by Organic Gardening Magazine... Not surprising, since it looks like so: Apparently it has always been grown more as an ornamental thing, rather than to be eaten, although it’s perfectly edible. By the way, a farmer who specializes in growing them says they can grow up to 18" long! :shock: Sort of brings a tear to your eyes, doesn't it?

五樣好東西

2010-06-12T21:29:00.001+08:00

因緣際會下，看到一位名吳寶芬講師的健康講座報導，她贏得滿堂喝采下，是抽絲剝繭地打破一般人根深蒂固的錯誤飲食觀念。為一改前非，將筆記好好整理一番！五樣好東西是： 1. 睡前喝豆漿、 (soya bean milk before sleep) 睡前喝豆漿：豆漿富含 100% 的優質胺基酸，可製造充分的生長激素，促進身體的新陳代謝，消耗體內多餘的醣份和脂肪，所以睡前喝豆漿，有減肥的的效果，這就是「胺基酸減肥法」，又叫「懶人減肥法」。此外，大豆富含異黃酮素（天然的雌激素），可降低血液中的膽固醇，保護心臟，預防心肌梗塞，所以女生得心血管疾病的機率只有男生的六分之一，異黃酮素並可抑制人體鈣質的流失，還可預防與基因遺傳有關的乳癌與腸癌，因此睡前喝上一杯 250cc 的豆漿，冷熱甜淡隨意，可讓您有一個好睡眠、好體質。但是現在市面上的黃豆有 80 ％是基因改造的，目前基因改造的食品對人體的影響如何還未可知，購買非基因改造豆漿，建議購買無防腐劑喔，睡前喝比早上喝的效益更大。 2. 吃水果比吃蔬菜好、 (fruits are better than vegetables) 吃水果比吃蔬菜好：當個「好色之徒」吧，吃水果要選香的，顏色鮮豔的，含有大量松脂，多吃對身體有益。且吃水果比吃蔬菜好，松脂成分可抗壓，如芒果要選土芒果，葡萄要吃紫葡萄，西瓜選無子大紅西瓜，蜜瓜選綠色的，哈蜜瓜要選肉色的，水果中以榴璉的松脂居第一。然今後別再吃西柚因會抑制肝的解毒！ 3.. 綠茶效益勝過水 (green tea is better than plain water) 建議喝綠茶來代替水和紅茶，因水帶不走身上不好的物質，紅茶為已發酵的熟茶，因此綠茶優於紅茶，多喝綠茶可以降低巴金森，且綠茶含兒茶素，能保護關節軟骨緩解疼痛。另外，泡過後無味的綠茶包，可用來擦過敏的皮膚跟濕疹唷！ 4. 天天來杯咖啡吧 (a daily coffee is good for you) 喝咖啡選阿拉伯豆：每天一杯咖啡，喝咖啡的好處是咖啡可抑制多巴胺 L-Dopa ，預防老化、巴金森氏症、防癌，咖啡會活化大腦命令四肢時所需要的傳導物，年老以後身手較為協調，壞處是喝咖啡會流失鈣與一些維他命。懷孕前三個月禁喝，因易流產。此外，喝咖啡要選阿拉伯豆，不是爪哇豆，豆子要新鮮，放久了會產生黃麴毒素。 5. 將癌細胞改邪歸正的蕃薯 (sweet potato can get away the cancel cells) 蕃薯導正病變細胞：蕃薯含神經節肝酯，能導正病變細胞；且蕃薯可以減肥，因為其澱粉是水溶性纖維，不會囤積體內。蕃薯的甜味是多醣，對人體有益，比吃飯更有飽足感，建議一週可用一餐蕃薯代替飯來吃。蕃薯愈紅愈甜愈好，烤的比水煮和蒸的好，且烤後連皮一起吃更好。專作放射線之醫師，認為『微波爐』會利用電波少一個正價電子，運用水分子之震盪使食物變熱，所以食物易變成自由基，就會容易致癌。所以偶而方便用一下，最好還是少用『微波爐』最好！以下文章值得參考人體內的有毒物質主要來源於兩個途徑：一是大氣與水源中的污染物、通過呼吸及進餐而侵入人體內，鉛、鋁、汞等重金屬就是其代表；另一個是食物在體內代謝後的廢物，如自由基、硫化氫等。時下，清除體內垃圾已成健康時尚。下列方法可幫您及時清除體內毒素。 1. 主動咳嗽法 : (proactive cough) 自然界中的粉塵、金屬微粒及廢氣中的毒性物質，通過呼吸進入肺臟，既損害肺臟，又通過血液迴圈而 ! 株連 ' 全身。借助主動咳嗽可以 ' 清掃 ' 肺臟。每天到室外空氣清新處做深呼吸運動，深吸氣時緩緩抬起雙臂，然後主動咳嗽，使氣流從口、鼻中噴出，咳出痰液。 2. 飲水沖洗法： (have a cup of plain water after getting up in the morning) 定時排便，縮短糞便在腸道內的停留時間，及時排出糞便中的毒素。每天清晨空腹喝一杯溫開水，有利於大便通暢以及毒素從尿液中排出。 3. 運動出汗法： (do exercises) 皮膚也是排泄毒素的途徑，主要通過出汗的方式，讓毒素隨汗液排出體外。 4.... 巧用食物法： ●常飲鮮果、鮮菜汁 ( 不經炒煮 ) ，鮮果、鮮菜汁是體內 ' 清潔劑 ' ，牠們能排除體內堆積的毒素和廢物。 (fruit and vegetable juices are good) ●常吃海帶，海帶對放射性物質有特別的親和力，海帶膠質能促使體內的放射性物質隨著大號排出體外，從而減少放射性物質在人體內的積聚，也減少了放射性疾病的發生率。 (sea weeds are good) ●常喝綠豆湯，綠豆湯能輔助排泄體內的毒素，促進機體的正常代謝。 (green bean soup helps metabolism)

PUSH-POCKETING IN KUALA LUMPUR

2010-05-30T18:53:00.001+08:00

I am sure you all have heard of 'pick pocket'. A new trend 'push pocket'. Read on... for your own good A few days ago a new type of crime has surfaced in town. It goes something like this:- Somebody slips a hand-phone into your pocket, sometimes it could be just a wallet with an identity card and a few ringgit. A few minutes later, the 'owner' comes up and confronts you, the 'thief '. He makes a big commotion that you stole his stuff. You, caught unaware, are then pulled aside by the 'owner' for a settlement. You are intimidated and threatened that if you do not pay up the police will be brought in. If you pay up, this 'owner' lets you go. If not, the police are brought in. Another strange thing is that there always seems to be a 'witness' to your 'theft'. I am told this often happens to foreigners at the Kuala Lumpur International Airport (KLIA) or even at LRT trains. Given that you're 'guilty until proven innocent' as far as the Malaysian police are concerned, I understand some poor people are in jail for these 'offences'. At the KLIA, the 'owner' throws his hand-phone and wallet with the few ringgit notes into the luggage trolley of a just arrived passenger. The drama unfolds a few minutes later. The real culprit has easily convinced our Malaysian police to arrest the real victim (if he has not paid up the 'settlement' demand). This is a very serious matter. This is another form of extortionists operating in broad daylight. They are disgusting criminals who wi! ll do anything to rob and steal. The sickening part of the whole scenario is that unless you pay the 'quoted settlement' money, they will put you in real trouble by calling the police.. The real culprit gets back his hand-phone and wallet but the real victim ( i.e. could be any one of us) is thrown into the police lock up and charged in court. So do be very careful, otherwise you may end up as a 'thief' as you have no way to prove your innocence.. Pass it on..... let more people be aware of such things around them.

6 Serious Office Health Risks

2010-05-20T22:08:00.001+08:00

Sitting at a desk all day can be hazardous to your health. Back pain, eyestrain and sleep problems can all be results of increasingly sedentary yet stressful work environments. The number of physically demanding jobs has dropped to less than 10% from 20% in the 1950s, according a study published by economic and social policy researchers at the Urban Institute, meaning the number of jobs that require some exertion were cut in half, leaving more Americans susceptible to desk-job-related health problems. Here are six office-related maladies and how they can be prevented. Carpal Tunnel Syndrome Problem: Any motion that is repeated over and over again can cause injury or pain, according to occupational-health-focused Denver Chiropractor Dr. T. Randall Eldridge. But carpal tunnel syndrome isn't just pain or soreness from too much typing. It's the tingling, numbness, itching or even sharp pain caused when a nerve that runs through the forearm is compressed by swollen ligaments and bones in the wrist, according to the National Institutes of Health. Prevention: Before you're forced to treat carpal tunnel with acupuncture, drugs or even surgery, stretching and other exercises may help release tension in the wrist, the NIH says. And, contrary to what many believe, your wrists shouldn't actually rest on those cushy wrist pads that sit below your keyboard or mouse pad. They should actually be used as a guide for how high your wrists should be, according to occupational therapist to Marji Hajic. Hajic says hands should hover over the wrist rest and it should only be used as a rest in between bouts of typing. Lower-Back Pain Problem: Sitting for hours on end, particularly if you have bad posture, can be devastating to your body over time if you don't get moving on a regular basis. And back pain is actually a major reason for missed work for adults of all ages, according to the Georgetown University Center on an Aging Society. But bad posture at your desk goes beyond the obvious slouching. Sitting up straight but curving your back too much can be a cause of lower-back pain as well, notes the NIH. Prevention: Besides being better aware of your posture as you're sitting at your desk, getting regular exercise including abdominal strengthening activities should relieve some of the pressure on your lower back. Having too fat a wallet in your back pocket can be a bad thing as well. Sitting on a large wallet can put pressure on the sciatic nerve, which can cause sharp back pain, according to UAB Health System in Birmingham, Ala. Other Joint Problems Problem: The human body is meant to move, and staying in one position for too long can make joints feel tight. Sitting at a desk especially shortens and tightens the hip flexors, the muscles than help pull your legs toward your body, according to the Yoga Journal. And tight hip flexors can actually contribute to back pain as well since tight hips force the pelvis to tilt forward, compressing the back, Yoga Journal says. Prevention: Besides getting up from your desk at regular intervals and walking around a bit, the Mayo Clinic recommends a number of stretches that can help loosen up your hips. Eyestrain Problem: Office workers who spend hours a day staring at a computer screen might tell you that after a certain amount of time, their vision gets blurry and their eyes generally become more sensitive. Those symptoms (as well as too-watery or too-dry eyes, a headache or a sore neck) could be indications of eyestrain, according to the Mayo Clinic. Prevention: To prevent eyestrain at your computer, increase your font size so you don't have to squint, suggests Microsoft (NASDAQ: MSFT - News) (though the font on this informative page might cause readers to do just that). You may also want to rest your eyes frequently by looking away from your computer screen and reducing any glare on your monitor, the Mayo Clinic suggests. Bacteria Problem: "The desk, in terms of bacteria, is 400 times more dirty than your toilet," University of Arizona microbiologist Dr. Charles Gerba told WebMD (NASDAQ: WBMD - News). "People turn their desks into bacteria cafeterias because they eat at them, but they never clean them. The phone is the dirtiest, the desktop is next, and the mouse and the computer follow." But bacteria problems at your desk could be more severe than Gerba thinks. Breadcrumbs and other food remnants get can get in between keys on your keyboard, attract rats and lead to unintended exposure to their germs. What's more, many raw and cooked foods need to remain refrigerated, and leaving them out for two hours or more is a food safety no-no. Prevention: If you frequently eat your lunch at your desk, you may want to make sure you have hand sanitizer and antibacterial wipes to wipe down your work surface daily. That can also protect you from germs sprayed into the air by your coughing and sneezing coworkers. If your office has a communal kitchen sink with a sponge, the American Dietetic Association suggests using paper towels instead, just to stay safe from bacteria. The association goes as far as recommending that those who eat in the office bring a refrigerator thermometer and a meat thermometer as well. Stressful Situations Problem: Stress can be a problem at work regardless of how physical your day-to-day activities are, but those who do exert themselves on the job can actually use some of their activities to ease their stress. If you're chained to a desk, however, you may be even more likely to have stress-related outbursts. About one-sixth of workers said anger at work led to property damage, and 2%-3% of workers admit to pushing, slapping or hitting someone at work, according to Reuters. "With roughly 100 million people in the U.S. work force ... that's as many as 3 million people," Reuters reports. Additionally, about 22% of U.S. workers say they've been driven to tears because of workplace stress and 9% say that stress has led to physically violent situations, reports RJC Associates, a career development firm. Prevention: Smaller stressors can be handled with breathing and relaxation techniques at your desk or a break outside of the office, but some conflicts may call for mediation by an unbiased party. And believe it or not, video games have been suggested as a method for easing workplace stress, according to CareerBuilder.com. With the job market recovering and more companies hiring, however, it's starting to look like new job prospects could be a promising way out of stressful work conditions as well.

还有这样的男人吗?? 找到..千万别放手..

2010-05-07T22:14:00.001+08:00

1.朦胧醒来回你信息.. 2.半夜里接你的电话.. 3.告诉你——到家了就发消息给他.. 4.你半夜睡不着发消息给他..他会陪你聊天.. 5.雨天..同撑一把伞..他衣服的一半是湿的.. 6.不论走到哪里..都一直拉着你的手.. 7.愿意吃你吃不下的东西.. 8.从来不迟到..你迟到他不会生气 9.不论去哪里..他都会来接你..无怨无悔.. 10.不乱花钱..但肯为你花钱.. 11.拥抱很久..很紧.. 12.记得你说过的所有事.. 13.轻轻拧开你拧不开的汽水瓶.. 14.常常发消息告诉你..突然很想你.. 15.常常给你留言.. 16.不舒服时..他会很担心很着急.. 17.吵架时不会一走了之.. 18.他错了会认错..你错了不会怪你.. 19.吵架后..会无条件地哄你..放下面子.. 20.从不忍心责备你..无条件包容你.. 21.会一直保护你..害怕你受一点点委屈.. 22.你说笑话他会笑..会觉得你很可爱.. 23.比你高.. 24.会一个人安静地思考..但决不冷漠.. 25.许多方面都很厉害..让你崇拜.. 26.会一直夸你..给你鼓励.. 27.不对你隐瞒什么.. 28.百分百信任你.. 29.不花言巧语.. 30.不会因为玩游戏而忽略你.. 31.不抽烟少喝酒.. 32.有活动安排事先和你打招呼.. 33.和朋友出去时..要想着你.. 34.重大的事情和你商量.. 35.和大人在一起像大人..和孩子在一起像孩子.. 36.喜欢你..从未犹豫..不拿你和别的女孩子比较.. 37.从未想过离开你的世界.. 38.你买给他的东西他都会喜欢.. 39.对女孩子有风度..也有距离.. 40.认识你的一些好朋友..拜托她们照顾你.. 41.了解你的烦恼与困惑..不厌其烦地倾听.. 42.很少让你哭..你哭的时候会很心疼..紧紧地抱住你.. 告诉你都是他的错.. 43.可以随时找到他.. 44.靠在他肩膀的时候很安心.. 45.和他在一起有种温暖的感觉.. 46.不重色轻友..也不重友轻色.. 47.计划的未来里..你是重要的一部分.. 请问..您..遇到了吗?如果是..一定要珍惜嗯！:]

A TERRIFYING AND HORRID THOUGHT!

2010-05-04T22:13:00.001+08:00

To all (teenagers and adults) Do not simply trust anyone, even your girl friends, your boyfriends or your best friends. BE ALERT, BE AWARE A woman at the nightclub in Cobar, Singapore on Saturday night was taken by 5 men, who according to hospital and police reports, gang raped her before dumping her. Unable to remember the events of the evening, tests later confirmed the repeated rape along with traces of Rohypnol in her blood, with Progesterex, which is essentially a small sterilization pill. This drug is now being used by rapists at parties to rape and sterilize their victims. Progesterex is available to vets to sterilize large animals.. Rumor has it that Progesterex is being used together with Rohypnol, the date rape drug. As with Rohypnol, all they have to do is drop it into the girls drink. The girl can't remember a thing the next morning, of all that had taken place the night before. Progesterex, which dissolves in drinks just as easily, is such that the victim doesn't conceive from the rape and the rapist needn't worry about having a paternity test identifying him months later. The drugs effects are not temporary- They are permanent! Progesterex was designed to sterilize horses. Any female who takes it will never be able to conceive. The bastards can get this drug from anyone who is in vet school or any university. It's that easy and Progesterex is about to break out big every where. Believe it or not, there are even sites on the Internet telling people how to use it. Please COPY this to everyone you know, especially girls. Be careful when you're out, and don't leave your drink unattended. Please make the effort to pass this onto all you know...... Guys, please inform all your female friends and relatives. Girls, keep your drinks safe at all times, and men, look after the girls you're with. Please pass this on to all your friends and family... 根據醫院和警方的報告，一女人在夜總會週六晚上被5名男子輪姦了。她記不住當晚發生的事情，醫院試驗多次隨著強姦痕跡後證實，在她的血液有Rohypnol與Progesterex 存在，基本它們都是一小小的消毒藥片藥物，目前強姦集團正在廣泛使用在被強姦的受害者。 Progesterex 是用于獸醫消毒大型動物。據傳Progesterex與Rohypnol 用在約會及強姦的藥品。正如Rohypnol ，把它下到女孩的飲料。使她不能記起所發生過的事情，第二天早上，已忘記所前一天晚上發生的事情。 Progesterex ，它容易溶解在飲料，就是這樣，受害人無法想起強姦犯的發生及強姦犯逍遙法外，不必擔心有親子鑑定的追蹤調查。這些藥物影響不是暫時的，他們是永久使受害者忘記發生過的事情！ Progesterex的目的是要消毒馬匹。就是這麼簡單任何獸醫學校或任何醫學大學都可得到這種藥物。 Progesterex是即將爆發大每一個地方。信不信由你，甚至還有點互聯網告訴人們如何使用它。請複製，給你知道每的個一人，特別是女性。您應當要注意，在任何共眾場所，千萬不可喝你已離開過的飲料，即使只有一分鐘。請努力通知到所有你認識的人......，特別是請通知您的所有女性朋友和親戚。女孩，讓您的飲料在任何時候都要安全，各位男士，你應照顧和你一起的女士。請通過這項對所有您的朋友和家人...

Shell Oil Comments - A MUST READ

2010-05-04T22:08:00.001+08:00

Safety Alert! Here's some reasons why we don't allow cell phones in operating areas, propylene oxide handling and storage area, propane, gas and diesel refueling areas. The Shell Oil Company recently issued a warning after three incidents in which mobile phones (cell phones) ignited fumes during fueling operations In the first case, the phone was placed on the car's trunk lid during fueling; it rang and the ensuing fire destroyed the car and the gasoline pump. In the second, an individual suffered severe burns to their face when fumes ignited as they answered a call while refueling their car! And in the third, an individual suffered burns to the thigh and groin as fumes ignited when the phone, which was in their pocket, rang while they were fueling their car. You should know that: Mobile Phones can ignite fuel or fumes Mobile phones that light up when switched on or when they ring release enough energy to provide a spark for ignition Mobile phones should not be used in filling stations, or when fueling lawn mowers, boat, etc. Mobile phones should not be used, or should be turned off, around other materials that generate flammable or explosive fumes or dust, (I.e., solvents, chemicals, gases, grain dust, etc...) TO sum it up, here are the Four Rules for Safe Refueling: 1) Turn off engine 2) Don't smoke 3) Don't use your cell phone - leave it inside the vehicle or turn it 0ff 4) Don't re-enter your vehicle during fueling. Bob Renkes of Petroleum Equipment Institute is working on a campaign to try and make people aware of fires as a result of 'static electricity' at gas pumps. His company has researched 150 cases of these fires. His results were very surprising: 1) Out of 150 cases, almost all of them were women. 2) Almost all cases involved the person getting back in their vehicle while the nozzle was still pumping gas. When finished, they went back to pull the nozzle out and the fire started, as a result of static. 3) Most had on rubber-soled shoes. 4) Most men never get back in their vehicle until completely finished. This is why they are seldom involved in these types of fires. 5) Don't ever use cell phones when pumping gas 6) It is the vapors that come out of the gas that cause the fire, when connected with static charges. 7) There were 29 fires where the vehicle was re-entered and the nozzle was touched during refueling from a variety of makes and models. Some resulted in extensive damage to the vehicle, to the station, and to the customer. 8) Seventeen fires occurred before, during or immediately after the gas cap was removed and before fueling began. Mr. Renkes stresses to NEVER get back into your vehicle while filling it with gas. If you absolutely HAVE to get in your vehicle while the gas is pumping, make sure you get out, close the door TOUCHING THE METAL, before you ever pull the nozzle out. This way the static from your body will be discharged before you ever remove the nozzle. As I mentioned earlier, The Petroleum Equipment Institute, along with several other companies now, are really trying to make the public aware of this danger. I ask you to please send this in formation to ALL your family and friends, especially those who have kids in the car with them while pumping gas. If this were to happen to them, they may not be able to get the children out in time. Thanks for passing this along.

笑話小品~ 輕鬆一下~

2010-05-02T13:45:00.001+08:00

輕鬆一下~ 端午節時，公司發了一箱牛奶和一袋泰國香，女同事力氣小，搬不動叫我幫她送回去，到了她家樓下,她對我說：“你在樓下等等我，我上去看看，如果我老公在，我就叫他下來搬;如果他不在，那就麻煩你幫我搬上去吧。” 我點了點頭，過了一會兒，同事站在她家的陽台上朝下叫：“你上來吧！” 因為她在五樓，我剛開始沒聽到，沒有反應。於是她大聲地叫：“喂！我老公不在家，快上來吧！” 此話一出，驚動了左鄰右舍，大家都跑到陽台上來看。...我在眾目睽睽下上樓也不是，走也不是。她以為我沒有聽清楚，雙手做了一個喇叭狀放在嘴巴邊更大聲叫道：“有沒有聽到？我老公不在家，快上來！” 推銷高手一天某推銷員按電鈴：「這位太太我這邊有一本書，叫做『丈夫晚歸500種藉口』，你一定要買。」某太太：「笑話！我為什麼一定要買？」推銷員：「我剛賣給你先生一本。」外銷講究包裝弟弟和妹妹都到了愛漂亮的年齡，對身上的衣著很講究。但是媽媽常為妹妹添購新衣，而忽略了弟弟。為此，弟弟很不開心，說媽媽偏心。而媽媽卻有她的理由，說："外銷的東西，要特別講究包裝。" 離家出走兒子提著一個很大的提包準備離家出走，經過看見爸爸似乎欲言又止，於是對他就對爸爸說：「這個家實在太沉悶了，我再也忍受不下去了！我要離開！我要自己去過那種天天有刺激！天天花天酒地，天天有漂亮美眉的生活。爸爸，誰都不能阻止我。」爸爸終於開口說話了，他說：「我才沒有，你等我一下，我馬上準備行李和你一起去。」讚美妻子在穿衣鏡前試新衣，回頭問丈夫：好看嗎？丈夫把視線從報紙移開，瞥了她一眼，沒吭聲。妻子生氣地說：馬克吐溫說過「一句讚美的話，可以讓我活兩個月」，你怎麼就不試著對我說幾句讚美的話？丈夫答：好吧！那你想活多久？特異能力有一位探險家到美國西部探險，紮營時一位當地的印地安土著跑了過來對他說：「今天會下雨。」探險家也沒在意繼續工作，不料到了晚上果然下起大雨。第二天那土著又跑來了，說道下午會刮大風。探險家給了他十塊錢，謝謝他，而當天下午果然也刮起風來。如此過了一個禮拜，那土著每天跑來報告天氣，探險家也每次都給他十塊錢，而每天的天氣也果然如土著所預言的一樣。探險家心中十分佩服土著的特異能力，簡直比氣象報告還準。這一天，土著又跑來了，可是一句話也沒說。探險家奇道：「你今天為什麼不預報天氣了呢？」「因為我的收音機壞了」土著答道一幅畫像有一對夫婦在參觀展覽，近視很深的妻子，正將臉湊近一幅畫像對一旁的丈夫說：這是我生平見過最醜的畫像了！丈夫就把妻子拉到一旁，小聲地對她說：這不是畫像，是一面鏡子！超速的藉口一位警官想使一輛超速行駛的車子停下，但那司機卻逐漸地加快了100英里/每小時。當他意識到終究無法逃脫時，只好開到路邊停了下來。警官過來對他說：「上了一天的班，我也差不多要下班了，這樣吧，如果你能為你的逃跑行為找一個好的藉口，我就放過你。」那司機想了幾秒鐘後說：「我妻子在大約一個星期前跟一個警察跑了，我以為你想把她送回來給我，所以我就拚命逃了。

網絡夯潮流　非思不可　走出開心農場　投入開心道場

2010-04-04T01:05:00.001+08:00

網際網絡的影響力無遠弗屆，無所不能，也無處不在。電子郵件，收發只在數秒間；即時通訊（messenger），交流仿如面對面；社交網站，無限空間任翱翔，唯在暢遊侃談之際，行跡更似暴露人前。網絡遊戲“開心農場”，種菜、收割、偷菜樣樣行，虛擬互動帶進生活，安撫心靈，卻更空虛。資深媒體人詹宏志曾說過，你應該把科技當作人生的一個設計，而不是讓它來駕馭你。自從有了網際網絡，人們溝通與交流的管道變得紛繁多樣，也更為方便。隨著 Facebook、Myspace、Orkut、Twitter 等社交網站的出現，許多年輕人只要懂得操作電腦，不必外出就可以購物、了解天下事；還可以透過聊天、收發訊息、影音、檔案分享、部落格、討論群組等方式，擴大自己的社交圈子。社交網站（SNS, Social Networking Service）主要是為一群擁有相同興趣與活動的人建立線上社區，為用戶提供各種聯繫、交流的方式，如電子郵件、即時通訊服務等。他們一般會透過朋友，一傳十、十傳百地展延開去，這種網絡關係極似樹葉的脈絡，所以中國大陸也稱其為脈絡（人面）網站。以面子書（facebook，註1）為例，從二ＯＯ四年至今，短短六年間，它的用戶已達三億七千五百萬人，風靡全球一百八十國，擁有七十多種語言版本，成為全球最“夯”（網絡上將此字解讀為“熱門”）的社群網站之一。在馬來西亞，不少上至六七十歲的阿公阿嬤、下至六七歲的小孩，皆擁有面子書的用戶賬號。很多社交網站上也架設了網絡遊戲，讓用戶、尤其年輕人流連忘返，甚至廢寢忘食，欲罷不能。如網絡遊戲“開心農場”，它架設在面子書的應用程式上，關係就像百貨公司和品牌專櫃。有人說，像“開心農場”這樣的專櫃，在面子書上有成千上萬個。但根據網絡報導顯示，在台灣，認識開心農場的人遠超過面子書，平均每八個人就有一個在玩開心農場。證嚴上人擔心當今年輕人會深陷在網絡世界裡而忽視了尊重生命及造福人群的本分，因此在二ＯＯ九年全球慈青幹訓營上，呼籲慈濟大專青年（慈青），轉“開心農場”為“開心道場”，進而帶動更多同儕，不再沉迷於個人虛擬的網絡遊戲中，而是善用生命的使用權，讓青春譜寫生命的樂譜。註1：面子書（又稱臉書）二ＯＯ四年，還在哈佛大學求學的馬克柴克柏（Mark Zuckerberg）與三位同學，創立了面子書。Facebook 這個名字源自一種傳統的“花名冊”，美國的大學和預科學校通常會把這種印有學校社區所有成員的“花名冊”，發給新入學的學生或剛到職的教員，協助大家認識校內其他成員。其實面子書就是“通訊錄”，但不少人把它當成和朋友最重要的連絡工具。只要登入面子書網站，就可以用既有的通訊錄，找到線上朋友，而每個帳號都擁有個人主頁和四大網頁功能：留言、上傳照片、使用應用程式和追蹤朋友動態。網絡虛擬農場上尋樂子？ “開心農場”社交遊戲開發自三位年齡只有二十多歲的年輕人徐城、郜韶飛和程延輝。他們合力創辦“上海五分鐘網絡科技有限公司”，起初只是想設計一個大眾化、可以和認識的人一起玩、用以消磨零碎時間的五分鐘小遊戲。二ＯＯ八年末推出後，開心農場廣受歡迎，還成為被抄襲最多的網絡遊戲。數以千萬計的用戶為什麼會對一款簡單的遊戲如此癡迷？網友的回答是：第一、像他這樣的白領雖然渴望在鄉間擁有一片藍天和一塊菜地，但卻永遠成不了現實，只能在虛擬世界中獲得滿足；第二、偷菜時很有成就感。 ◎　滿足女兒的心願在台灣，一位患有肌肉萎縮症的小女孩，因為經常需要抽痰及氧氣輔助，不方便外出，生活範圍幾乎局限於自己的房間。雖然媽媽要付出更多的心力照顧她，但母女的感情非常好，生活也很快樂。小女孩曾經告訴媽媽，她很想去動物園玩。為了滿足女兒的心願，媽媽找到大陸網站上類似“開心農場”的遊戲：遊戲者有一片農場可以種牧草，收成後拿牧草餵動物園的動物，還可以賺錢買房子，並隨自己的喜好佈置房間。媽媽說，為了讓女兒“偷”牧草，爸爸媽媽也分別註冊一個遊戲帳號。小女孩聽後，馬上回答：“不是‘偷’，是‘拿’啦！”她也希望大愛台記者也來玩這遊戲：“我可以送一些牧草給你！” 大愛台記者有感而發：“媽媽透過遊戲教小女孩認識各種動物和植物，讓她從中獲得極大的滿足，更難得的是懂得分享。” ◎　尋求樂趣與安慰中國有一位即將退休的陳老師，最近每天都隨身攜帶一個小本子上班。一進辦公室，她立即翻開小本子，打開電腦，開始在開心農場裡偷菜；回到家裡，第一件事還是翻開本子，偷菜。陳老師是小學語文老師，唯一的女兒在北京工作。最近，女兒擔心她會因為孩子不在身邊而覺得無聊，便教她玩開心農場。沒想到，陳老師一玩就迷上了偷菜。時間久了，陳老師也“偷”出了心得，每天隨身攜帶小本子，上面密密麻麻地記著各好友的名字和各種蔬菜成熟的時間。每次偷菜前，她都會打開小本子，一邊根據本子上的資料偷菜，一邊記錄下一次菜成熟的時間。為了擴大偷菜範圍，陳老師還新增了女兒的同學、女兒同學的媽媽。為了使“收穫”更豐富，陳老師還特意囑咐女兒多種些菜讓她偷。另有一位剛為人母親的羅小姐，在家給孩子哺乳時迷上了這種偷菜遊戲。據她的先生透露，她在電腦前一手給寶寶餵奶，一手輕擊鼠標，幾秒鐘的功夫就可以完成收菜、偷菜、賣菜、買種子、種菜等全套動作，手腳俐落得很。 “以前，特別是晚上起床餵奶，感覺特別麻煩，看老公睡得那麼舒服，自己卻要半夜起床，心裡總不平衡。但自從玩農場偷菜遊戲後，我每天晚上起來餵奶可積極了。”羅小姐笑著說。她認為，給兒子餵奶時趁便上網偷菜，就不再覺得半夜起床照顧孩子是件痛苦的事。 ◎　夫妻餓死親生女韓國警方透露，有一對沉迷於網路遊戲的夫妻，疏於照顧親生女兒而導致她餓死。四十一歲的爸爸金裕徹和二十五歲的媽媽崔美善（皆為譯音），每天只留一瓶牛奶給小女嬰，就去網咖報到。他們每天流連於網咖的時間超過十二個小時，將才三個月大的小女嬰獨自放在家裡置之不顧。去年九月某天早上，夫妻倆起床後發現自己的小孩早已沒了呼吸，趕緊打電話求救。韓國家犯罪研究室發言人表示：“女嬰的驗屍報告顯示，她很長一段時間沒有進食，身體嚴重脫水，是被活活餓死的。”女嬰原本在祖母的照顧下健康狀況極佳，但自從父母接手照顧後，就發生此一悲劇。警方表示，他們罹患“網絡上癮症”，對現實人生的一切都感到疏離。這對夫妻在女嬰葬禮後即消失無蹤，最終韓國警方才將他們逮捕歸案，並以虐童致死的罪名起訴他們。他們被逮捕後對警方說：“我們心中滿是悔恨，在逃亡的這段時間已不再沉迷網路遊戲。” 令人不勝唏噓的是，在小女嬰被活活餓死的時候，她的父母竟是沉迷於線上遊戲“第二人生 Second Life”，照顧虛擬世界中的孩子。心理專家這樣看台大外文系教授黃宗慧於《臉書的另一面》中指出，一般線上遊戲，大多是把自己的身分跟社交圈“現實化”，從虛擬延伸到現實，而面子書卻是將現實既有的身分與社交圈“虛擬化”，移置到虛擬世界，且更令人上癮。開心農場作為一種幻想的遊戲，比許多 3D 立體的線上遊戲更加“逼真”、更緊貼現實，對現實生活造成更直接的效應。開心農場裡的種菜與偷菜這樣受歡迎，不僅來自於種菜本身得到的成就感，更是由於“大家都想要偷我的菜、幫我種菜”，在這禮尚往來或你偷我守的攻防趣味中，形塑了一種集體認同，並藉此擁有實體社交移置的虛擬臉孔。面子書也透過各種方式，讓使用者不知不覺把個人資訊全盤招出，而延伸出個人隱私問題，包括職場與私生活的相互干擾、昔日情人意外搭上線、同志身分的意外出櫃等。因此，法國社會學家布希亞在《通訊狂歡》裡說到，在通訊狂歡的年代，一切都是“平面”，一切都如此逼近，沒有公眾與私人所區隔開來的景深。這張“臉”，把一切人際網路通通吸納；不容許遮掩、沒有秘密，猥褻而透明──這張臉其實“不要臉”。 ◎　折射出扭曲的社會現象網絡用戶選擇在開心農場裡偷菜，一方面把社交生活中難以揭露、不敢表明的敵意，以幻想的方式宣洩，另一方面，也讓我們意外地認識自己另一張“面目全非”的臉，一種壓抑在人性最底層的暴力傾向。另有人分析，許多人簇擁著去玩此類網絡遊戲，很大程度上是因為有從眾心理，希望透過參與遊戲來表現自己附和於公眾，從中獲得認同。《中國青年報》一篇評論文章中指出，“全民偷菜”越開心越迷失，某些社會學家認為，“偷菜”折射出一種扭曲的社會與文化現象。在中國，已經有因玩開心農場偷菜不過癮，而現實中到菜園“真”偷菜的小偷。專門研究網路文化的大眾傳播系教授莊伯仲提醒，開心農場已開始引發負面效應，玩家們不得不合理自制。開心農場迅速竄紅，但究竟能紅多久，專家也難以預測。但他們所提出的種種看法，確實值得我們去省思。幸福青春　勤耕開心道場二ＯＯ九年十二月二十七日，來自十二個國家的七百位慈青、慈青慈懿會暨學長會的成員，齊聚台灣花蓮靜思堂，展開為期兩天的“全球慈青日”年度盛會。 “一年就快過去，對我而言，過一天就少一天，過一年就少一歲。”時日飛逝，迅如疾矢，證嚴上人表示，“來不及”的感覺愈益迫切；而年事漸高，現今最盼望的就是年輕人承擔使命，呵護未來的地球與人群。不少年輕人熱衷於電腦遊戲“開心農場”，甚至沉迷到廢寢忘食。上人期許慈青，要善用分秒利益人群、成長慧命。 “人身難得，佛法難聞。要顧好自己的道心，養成良好的生活規律。若晚上十一點半即就寢，早晨五點半‘晨鐘起，薰法香’，不只可以聞法、相互勉勵，也因為頭腦清醒，在學業或工作中，分析事理將更睿智敏銳，做事更有魄力。希望大家不要沉迷‘開心農場’，而能轉向‘開心道場’。” 念念好念則日日好日，證嚴上人期勉慈青：“每個動作皆以利他為先，就是造福；心存無私大愛，即是智慧。在慈濟菩薩道上，時時去除煩惱，精進福慧雙修。” （一）善用網絡科技因為網絡科技之便，馬來西亞慈青可以透過網站，選擇直播或預先下載大愛電視節目《靜思晨語》，學習佛法，並運用在日常生活中；也因為有了社交網站，讓慈青學長梁貴勝善用面子書，將善的訊息傳達；也讓更多人可以掌握吉隆坡靜思書軒和慈濟大學社會教育推廣中心的最新活動訊息。盧子康也聽取證嚴上人的教誨，及時懸崖勒馬，轉而與同學一齊“薰法香”。二ＯＯ七年九月，台灣慈青為調整“夜貓子”的作息，自動自發早睡早起，並於清晨恭聽《靜思晨語》。隔年，“晨鐘起．薰法香”的訊息傳至全球慈青，馬來西亞慈青也響應號召。他們準時會合，用手提電腦進入大愛台網站，直播或下載《靜思晨語》來求法。為此，他們需要克服網絡科技的不順暢、對閩南語的不熟悉及瞌睡蟲的干擾等種種挑戰，一同靜心薰佛法香。馬六甲慈青學姊黃婉琦說，“晨鐘起．薰法香”運動後來慢慢演變出各種不同的善巧方法，除了清晨五時“愛的防護網”，也有大專生在每星期六清晨七時，約定在大專院校內觀賞預先下載的大愛台節目共修，然後再相約一起爬山、用早餐等等。 “爬山有益身心，相約吃素食早餐也能減少一次‘殺生’的機會。”絞盡腦汁，希望一舉數得，令婉琦感到欣慰的是，無論在馬六甲多媒體大學還是技術大學，已有越來越多年輕學子齊齊響應做個“晨型人”。懸崖勒馬 ◎ 馬六甲．盧子康　羅秀蓮采訪相隔一個月沒玩開心農場的盧子康，再度連接到開心農場時，裡頭田地已沒任何農作。摸索了好一會兒，他靦腆地說：“我忘記怎麼玩了……” 子康是馬六甲馬來西亞技術大學的畢業慈青，去年二月受朋友邀約，曾對開心農場、Cafe World 等網絡遊戲欲罷不能。雖然未至於廢寢忘食，但他也會“上課時因擔心菜被偷而心不在焉”，“有時半夜還要爬起來，甚至做功課時都要放鬧鐘提醒自己……” 除此之外，他也喜歡在網絡上與朋友分享自己喜歡的影片。後來，他從網站中閱讀到一篇文章，該文把“玩網絡遊戲欲罷不能的心態比喻成毒品上癮”，讓他驚覺，自己差點變成“癮友”了。心生警惕之際，二Ｏ一Ｏ年初，慈青學姊從台灣帶回上人的呼籲，籲請時下青年，將“開心農場”轉換成“開心道場”，子康聽了，回到宿舍即在面子書上留言告訴大家：“我不再玩網絡遊戲了。” 子康說：“起初，朋友還抱著好奇的心態，看我可以耐得住到什麼時候？”起初他也感覺怪怪的；幸好有“晨鐘起．薰法香”的習慣，證嚴上人每天晨語的叮嚀，收攝了他“蠢蠢欲動”的心。談起“晨鐘起．薰法香”，子康娓娓道出他與眾不同的心路歷程：我以前覺得早起是一件很怪的事，“晨鐘起．薰法香”卻讓我突破“早起”的考驗。只要想到網絡的另一邊，有許多夥伴陪伴我時，就不再覺得孤單；漸漸地，我越來越早睡，也減少了賴床、打電玩的習慣。還記得有一段時間，我因為受不了宿舍的線路不穩而影響收視的品質，常常摸黑拿著手提電腦，走到距離宿舍一公里外的茶餐室上網。後來經過學姊提醒，知道大家都在為我的安全擔心後，我只好繼續在宿舍學習寬心與“無常”的網路共處。也許因為不容易，所以更珍惜，更堅定了我持續求法的心念，也改變我的許多想法。以前我有很多奇怪的念頭，性格倔強不容易妥協。記得“薰法香”一段時日後，有一次，朋友不小心惹怒了一位司機而當眾被他責難，雙方都不肯低頭。我為了打圓場，代替朋友向他認錯、賠不是。雖然最終還是不獲對方的諒解，甚至讓朋友不值我的所為；但我很清楚，長期薰習在佛法中，我不知不覺變得更善解包容。這一切對我而言，就像考試一樣，在在考驗我有沒有把習得的佛法用在日常生活上，是一種訓練心力的過程…… 現在，二十出頭的子康因為宿舍搬遷，不再面對“網絡無常”的問題，依然精進持續“晨鐘起．薰法香”。黃婉琦透露，以前學長姊可能是他“愛的防護網”，現在角色對調，倒是子康會在清晨 morning call 提醒他們：是“薰法香”的時候了。子康偶爾會因溫習功課而遲睡遲起，錯過了“薰法香”。沒有聞法的日子，他感覺像是少吃了一餐飯，或是少做了某件重要的事情，懺悔心油然而生。佛法和證嚴上人的教誨，讓他學會了“感恩、尊重、愛”，深信 “薰法香”能影響個人思維。他說，以前之所以會喜歡“開心農場”，是因為“可以偷菜”，可以不顧後果，而且“被朋友罵了還會很高興，這表示有人在意自己。”如今回想，他也直覺好笑。網絡雖然可拉近世界的距離，但情誼還是需要依靠人與人之間的互動，才能加溫。播灑善種子 ◎　吉隆坡．梁貴勝我有面子書的帳號很久了，可是沒有什麼機會登入使用。後因陪伴慈青的因緣，看見很多慈青都使用面子書來溝通，分享自己的心情。為了更貼近慈青，我也開始用面子書。面子書其實有很多遊戲，剛開始我也是抱著消磨時間的心態，加入到很多遊戲當中，包括“開心農場”。玩的時間一久，我幾乎每天都要登入自己的菜園，看看自己“辛苦”種的菜有沒有被偷掉，否則就覺得渾身不自在。這只是其中一個遊戲，還有其他網上遊戲，也一樣讓我沉迷。直至聽了上人開示，我開始反省，察覺自己真的浪費很多時間在“種菜”和其他遊戲中；雖然只是虛擬偷菜，但也犯了“偷盜”戒，是時候要停止這樣的動作。就在此時，我在大愛台網站上看到有關吉隆坡李秀娟女士的故事（註2），於是把這則新聞下載，放到面子書上跟大家分享。無心插柳柳成蔭，這則新聞很快就傳開了，很多我不認識的網友紛紛來關心和詢問，想知道怎樣才可以幫到李女士。有人說要捐錢，有人說要買物資捐給她……每天都有來自不同地方的網友探詢李女士的近況。一名網友原是馬來西亞的慈濟新進志工，因為跟隨夫婿到美國而斷了慈濟緣。她在網上輾轉讀到李女士的新聞，覺得世上真的有很多需要幫助的人，下定決心要來付出。也有多年前是慈濟新芽助學金受惠者的網友，看了新聞短片後，憶起自己曾受過慈濟的恩惠，因此發願要加入慈濟成為志工。還有一位女士，在瞭解了慈濟後，雖然不能立即加入志工行列，但是她願意每日存五十仙，湊夠一個月再捐給慈濟。一段短短的新聞短片，啟發無數的愛心和善念。在這過程中，我發現網絡可發揮極大的影響力；自此，我把每天花在面子書上玩遊戲的時間，兌換成轉載大愛新聞或相關短片，希望能把愛的清流和善的訊息，更快速寬廣地傳達出去，影響更多人加入大愛行列。今年初，海地發生強震，證嚴上人發動全球慈濟人募心募款。幾經思考，遠在海外的我們雖然不能走到最前線去幫忙，但我可以在面子書上傳大愛新聞，每天發佈海地的最新賑災狀況，希望能啟發眾人的愛心，也進一步讓網友們了解，慈濟在收到民眾的善款後，是如何去幫助海地災民，同時更呼籲大家虔誠祈禱及齋戒持素。與此同時，我也在本地一些知名的論壇開始分享環保訊息，其中包括素食環保的觀念和文章。沒想到有網友在看到文章後，也分享自己之前對茹素有所猶豫，但他今後下定決心吃全素。這一切都在在表明，倘若能好好運用網絡的便利，其實可以影響很多人，一起為這個世界貢獻一分力量。註 2：李秀娟個案吉隆坡慈濟照顧戶李秀娟和兒子，多年來與貓狗共處一室，每天撿食物回家餵貓狗，母子倆也一起分吃；而且她不擅打掃，住家環境非常髒亂。慈濟人用了三個月的時間陪伴、說服，李秀娟終於打開心門，也打開家門，讓志工走進去幫忙打掃，她與兒子的生活因而有了新的開始。傳遞善與愛的訊息近幾個月來，吉隆坡的靜思書軒和慈濟大學社會教育推廣中心從實體延伸到網路上，透過面子書建立粉絲專頁，讓更多人瀏覽靜思人文新產品及好書介紹、活動訊息等，還希望能夠與眾分享很多有意義的文章或想法。靜思書軒在面子書上沒有國界之分，大家可以透過這裡，找回一分愛的感動。如海地震災發生後，大家一起在面子書上響應祈禱。也有人對慈濟大學吉隆坡社會教育推廣中心的課程感興趣，在面子書上提問。“當我正想回答時，發現已經有人代為給予詳細的回復了。”負責更新粉絲專頁資料的書軒職工蔡培志說。有人透過大愛新聞短片，了解慈濟香積飯的意義以後，在網上詢問如何就近請購。“也有民眾從面子書上得知我們所推介的好茶，特別來到書軒請購回家……” 最重要能善用科技，善的回應就像涓涓清流，透過人脈，口口相傳，即能源遠流長。（二）年輕學子以“法”相會二十歲，原是充滿朝氣與活力，也是學習尊重生命與付出的最佳時刻。因此在慈濟，有提供青少年每月一次的慈濟青少年團（慈少）活動，除了靜態課程，亦安排殘智障院及敬老院送愛之旅、體驗學習等等，讓一群莘莘學子以“法”相會之餘，善用時間進行有益身心的活動；在行善與付出當中，學習如何與孤老和幼弱相處，懂得感恩、耐心與傾聽，再把這分“愛”帶回家中。慈青聯誼會成立之初，證嚴上人對大專青年有三項期勉：一為利用課餘做慈濟；二是培養悲天憫人的胸襟；三為學習與各式各樣的人相處。上人慈示：“將來社會是好是壞、如何讓各行各業循規蹈矩成為安定社會的力量，就看現在的年輕人。青少年是社會的希望，是家庭的希望，是人生的希望，我們的世界、我們的人生，假如沒有一群很好的青年，將來這個世間不就是黑暗的嗎？” 因此，慈青經常與慈濟志工參加各項活動，如協助輔導貧困小朋友的課業、陪伴阿公阿嬤話家常、攜手成為大地園丁做環保等，期望以年輕學子們陽光般的年輕活力，為大家帶來歡樂與溫暖，也讓大專學子逐步體認及培養正確的人生觀與價值觀，並將“及時行善與行孝”的精神帶給其他同儕。此外，他們還會舉辦營隊活動，學習在團隊中樂於承擔、勇於配合，以及如何待人接物，讓年輕的生命充滿自信的風采，因為有愛所以無畏，因為付出所以成長。手護大地　守護自己　◎證嚴上人開示縱觀現代社會，青少年問題多多，在慈青的生活周圍環境，有的年輕人會說功課壓力大，有的罹患了憂鬱症，慈青們知道了，就會邀請他說：“功課遇到困難的時候，就暫時放下，一起來做環保分類，在這裡輕安自在，有什麼心事大家相互分享，相信你會做得很開心。”結果，有憂鬱症、功課壓力、不開心的，還有人際關係困擾、打不開心門的年輕孩子也都會到環保站來。他們在這裡學會縮小自己，配合他人，得到生活的智慧，獲得付出後的快樂，還結交了志同道合的好朋友，更在許多社會小人物的身上找到面對人生的答案。慢慢的打開心門，漸漸就能告別憂鬱症的陰影。慈青們魅力四射，默默為社會回饋奉獻，用愛用力去付出，用雙手來膚慰地球，誰說現在的年輕人都是“草莓族”，中看而不中用？

荆棘里的花 - FIR

2010-04-04T00:44:00.001+08:00

F.I.R.(飞儿乐团) - 荆棘里的花我像散落在野地里的沙唤也唤不回了过往手心里的滚烫不是倔强遍体麟伤抱拥抱算不算你的回答爱是真的还是伪装沉默不说谎话不是退让往爱的方向固执的抵抗像开在荆棘里的花细雨中飘香相信爱在某个地方会种下芬芳盛开在荆棘里的花越是流泪越仰望爱是一步一步坚强奋不顾身的绽放抱拥抱算不算你的回答爱是真的还是伪装沉默不说谎话不是退让往爱的方向固执的抵抗像开在荆棘里的花细雨中飘香相信爱在某个地方会种下芬芳盛开在荆棘里的花越是流泪越仰望爱是一步一步坚强奋不顾身的绽放盛开的花开在荆棘的花像开在荆棘里的花细雨中飘香相信爱在某个地方会种下芬芳盛开在荆棘里的花越是流泪越仰望爱就是一步一步坚强奋不顾身的绽放荆棘里的花盛开的花

癌症只能在酸性身体中形成

2010-04-03T12:27:00.001+08:00

研究表明：　　① 癌症不能在弱碱性的人体中形成；　　② 癌症只能在酸性身体中形成；　　③ 如果你有癌症，说明身体是酸性的；　　④ 癌症只能在一个酸性的身体扩展；　　⑤ 如果你的身体变弱碱性，癌症不能扩展；　　⑥ 如果你能平衡你的身体PH值，让你的身体转变成弱碱性，不管你得的是什么癌症都有转变和被治好；　　⑦ 不管你的情况多么糟糕，哪怕只能活6个月，如果你能转变你的身体PH值到弱碱性，你的癌症就不会扩展，就会好；⑧ 不用担心你的家族中你的妈妈、爸爸或任何人有癌症，只要你的身体是弱碱性的，你不会得，如果你已经有了，它将会转变；　　⑨癌症都是酸性体液中生存的，没别的。如果你的身体是酸的，你就会得癌症。如果是弱碱的，你就不会得癌症。如果你已有了癌症，只要你能调整你身体的PH值到弱碱性，癌症就会离你而去。　　　　　　预防癌症的秘诀十分简单，就是常吃碱性食物以防止酸性废物的累积，因为酸化的体液环境，是正常细胞癌变的肥沃土壤，调整体液酸碱平衡，是预防癌症的有效途径。　　　　　　A)养成良好的生活习惯，戒烟限酒。吸烟，世界卫生组织预言，如果人们都不再吸烟，5年之后，世界上的癌症将减少1/3；其次，不酗酒。烟和酒是极酸的酸性物质，长期吸烟喝酒的人，极易导致酸性体质。　　　　　　B)不要过多地吃咸而辣的食物，不吃过热、过冷、过期及变质的食物；年老体弱或有某种疾病遗传基因者酌情吃一些防癌食品和含碱量高的碱性食品，保持良好的精神状态。　　　　　　C)有良好的心态应对压力，劳逸结合，不要过度疲劳。可见压力是重要的癌症诱因，中医认为压力导致过劳体虚从而引起免疫功能下降、内分泌失调，体内代谢紊乱，导致体内酸性物质的沉积；压力也可导致精神紧张引起气滞血淤、毒火内陷等。　　　　　　D) 加强体育锻炼，增强体质，多在阳光下运动，多出汗可将体内酸性物质随汗液排出体外，避免形成酸性体质。　　　　　　E)生活要规律，生活习惯不规律的人，如彻夜唱卡拉OK、打麻将、夜不归宿等生活无规律，都会加重体质酸化，容易患癌症。应当养成良好的生活习惯，从而保持弱碱性体质，使各种癌症疾病远离自己。　　　　　　F) 不要食用被污染的食物，如被污染的水，农作物，家禽鱼蛋，发霉的食品等，要吃一些绿色有机食品，要防止病从口入。　　　　　　酸性体质是人体大量摄入高脂肪、高蛋白、高热量食物的结果　　　　★常见食物的酸硷性: 　　⊙强酸性：蛋黄、乳酪、白糖、西点、柿子、乌鱼子、柴鱼等。　　⊙中酸性：火腿、鸡肉、鲔鱼、猪肉、鳗鱼、牛肉、面包、小麦、奶油、马肉等。　　⊙弱酸性：白米、花生、啤酒、油炸豆腐、海苔、文蛤（蚬）、章鱼、泥鳅等。　　⊙弱硷性：红豆、萝葡、苹果、甘蓝菜、洋葱、豆腐等。　　⊙中硷性：萝葡乾、大豆、胡萝葡、番茄、香蕉、橘子、香瓜、草莓、蛋白、梅乾、柠檬、菠菜等。　　⊙强硷性：葡萄、茶叶、葡萄酒、海带、天然绿藻类　　海带可以说是硷性食物之王，多吃海带能有效调整酸性体质。所以平时常感到劳累、疲乏、浑身酸痛的话，不妨多吃海带。　　此外，人们常说喝茶能解乏，除了茶叶中的兴奋成分外，茶硷能「中和」体内的酸性物质，也有缓解疲乏的作用。　　◆哪些人的身体容易「发酸」: 　　⊙熬夜一族...晚上1：00以後不睡觉，人体的代谢作用会转由内分泌燃烧，用内分泌燃烧产生的毒素会很多，会使体质变酸，通常熬夜的人得慢性疾病的机率会比抽烟或喝酒的人都来得高。所以每天尽量在晚上12：00以前睡觉，不要常熬夜，若非要熬夜，一星期以一次为限！熬夜时不要吃肉，尽量吃碳水化合物，这样隔天才不会很累，可把伤害减至最低。　　⊙宵夜一族...凡是晚上8：00以後再进食就可称作宵夜。吃宵夜隔天易疲倦、爬不起床，肝也会受损，因为睡觉时，人体各器官活动力降低，处於休息状态，这时让食物留在肠子里会变酸、发酵，易产生毒素、伤害身体。　　⊙早餐的「逃兵」...一天三餐中，早餐最重要，但许多人不吃早餐，一早空著肚子，体内没有动力，会自动使用甲状腺、副甲状腺、下脑垂体等腺体，如此易造成腺体亢进、体质变酸，长期下来易导致各种慢性病。　　⊙「精食」一族...少运动且整天坐在办公室的上班族最容易犯这种错误，因为吃得少，又刻意选择很精致的食物、少吃粗粮，这类人的肠子老化得特别快，肝功能也会变差，排便是黑色的而且常会便秘。因为精致食物缺乏纤维素，会导致肠子功能变差，甚至萎缩，你所吃的食物变成了毒素，使你体质变酸，慢性病也开始了。

謝謝你的不珍惜，讓我學會了放棄...對不起，我不再等你了

2010-04-03T11:37:00.001+08:00

对不起！我不会再傻傻的等你了.....谢谢你的不珍惜，让我学会了放弃。。。。。对不起，我不再等你了我在也不会发只有“在干嘛”的三字的短信了，不会在打扰你的生活了对不起，我不再等你了我不会在早上醒来看看手机，有没有你发的信息对不起，我不再等你了你的facebook少了我脚印，因为我不在意你的一举一动了对不起，我不再等你了不会再翻着你发给我的短信，因为已经全部删掉了对不起，我不再等你了我不会在睡前紧握手机只为等你那一句晚安对不起，我不再等你了我不会再翻着关于你的照片，不再在意你现在过得好不好对不起，我不再等你了我不再在意现在的你有没有闹脾气对不起，我不再等你了不再因为你情绪影响到我对不起，我不再等你了我不会打电话给你，只想告诉你，我很想你。对不起，我不再等你了不会因为你一句话，死心踏地去做某事。对不起，我不再等你了看到你闪亮的facebook头像，不会再徘徊是否要say hi 对不起，我不再等你了看到手机里，你的名字，不会再犹豫是否要删掉对不起，我不再等你了想起过去的点滴，我会适可而止，不会再偷偷落泪对不起，我不再等你了不管你和他是合是离，都与我无关对不起，我不再等你了在街上看见你不是一个人，我也不会委屈自己绕道对不起，我不再等你了看到你的讯息，我不会再放下手边的事情，只为不要让你等太久对不起，我不再等你了一份需要徘徊的爱情，是不会长久的对不起，我不再等你了我现在才知道，回忆始终是回忆，我不会给你第二次的放弃我的机会对不起，我不再等你了我不会让你打扰我现在的生活对不起，我不再等你了即使在孤单的时候，我還是我的座右銘的那句話 alone not to be alone

Car Air-conditioning - MUST READ!!

2010-04-03T11:35:00.001+08:00

No wonder more folks are dying from cancer than ever before. We wonder where this stuff comes from but here is an example that explains a lot of the cancer causing incidents. Hmmm. Many people are in their cars first thing in the morning and the last thing at night, 7 days a week. As I read this, it makes me feel guilty and ill. Please pass this on to as many people as possible. Guess its not too late to make some changes Car A/C (Air Conditioning) MUST READ!!! Please do NOT turn on A/C as soon as you enter the car. Open the windows after you enter your car and turn ON the AC after a couple of minutes. Here's why: According to a research, the car dashboard, sofa, air freshener emit Benzene, a Cancer causing toxin (carcinogen - take time to observe the smell of heated plastic in your car). In addition to causing cancer, Benzene poisons your bones, causes anemia and reduces white blood cells. Prolonged exposure will cause Leukemia, increasing the risk of cancer. Can also cause miscarriage. Acceptable Benzene level indoors is 50mg per sq.ft. A car parked indoors with windows closed will contain 400-800 mg of Benzene. If parked outdoors under the sun at a temperature above 60 degrees F, the Benzene level goes up to 2000-4000 mg, 40 times the acceptable level. People who get into the car, keeping windows closed will inevitably inhale, in quick succession, excessive amounts of the toxin. Benzene is a toxin that affects your kidney and liver.. What's worse, it is extremely difficult for your body to expel this toxic stuff. So friends, please open the windows and door of your car - give time for interior to air out -dispel the deadly stuff - before you enter. Thought: 'When someone shares something of value with you and you benefit from it, you have a moral obligation to share it with others.'

你能分清楚爱和喜欢吗？‏

2009-12-10T16:59:00.001+08:00

喜歡和愛咫尺千里。當你喜歡一個人時，你想和他在一起，因為他會帶給你快樂；離開後，你會想念，想著想著就會笑，然後繼續你平靜的生活，並期待著與他再一次重逢。當你愛一個人時，你想和他在一起，那是一種牽腸掛肚的捨不得，怕他受委屈，怕他不能好好照顧自己；離開後，你也會想念，想著想著歎一口氣，'不知他現在過的怎樣？' 然後你繼續你平靜的生活，希望他早日回到你身邊。你喜歡的人在你眼中是天使，無所不能，他總會滿足你的任性的要求。你愛的人在你眼中是孩子，傻傻的，你不期望他做出什麼'好事'來，只一味縱容他那些讓人哭笑不得的舉動。你會希望你喜歡的人陪著你，然而你心中想的可能是你愛的人；你會希望陪在你愛的人身邊，看他在你面前睡得如此安逸甜美毫不設防的樣子，你會微笑，會覺得好幸福。你喜歡的人傷害了你，你會生氣，並且一定要讓他哄著騙著逗你笑你才原諒他；你愛的人傷害了你，你只會獨自傷心，因為你怕對他大吼大叫會嚇著他，你憂傷地微笑著，看著他的眼睛，一旦發現他的眼裡流露出歉意和悔恨，你會立即心疼地摟他在懷裡，那一刻，你也是幸福的。你可以同時喜歡很多人，你會希望和很多人在一起，但也許很多年後你才發現，原來你愛的就只有那麼一個，就那麼一個，怎麼都不會變，你以為把他忘記了，其實只是忙的沒空想起而已，對於你喜歡的人，你關注的是他的優點；對於你愛的人，你關注的是他的缺點，並且，那些缺點如果無關原則的話，它們在你眼裡是可愛的，獨一無二的。喜歡和愛其實只有一紙之隔，任何愛都從喜歡開始，當有天你突然發現，你喜歡的那個人在你眼中不再完美，而他的瑕疵正如月中的桂影一般讓你更加依依不捨，你會覺得與他光彩照人的一面相比，你更願意看他在你面前無助的表情，不知道是不是應該祝賀你，總之，你的感情昇華了 —— 仰慕不是愛，甚至不是喜歡，當你對一個人只有仰慕之情時，你們在一起便失去了和諧。有人說愛一個人很累，的確是，因為你想為他承擔，可是愛與喜歡相比最大的魅力就在於，當你和愛的人在一起時，你的感覺就像回家了

TOMORROW is NEVER Promised...

2009-12-10T11:43:00.001+08:00

One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say "I love you." So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage.....And old cars... And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it. Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what. Life is important, like people we know who are special.. And so, we keep them close! I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'! Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way... Now it's your turn to send this to all those people who are "keepers" in your life, including the person who sent it, if you feel that way. Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them? I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said. Let every one of your friends know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile J can do. And just in case I'm gone tomorrow. I LOVE YA!!! Live today because tomorrow is not promised..

Food To Be Avoid

2009-12-10T11:27:00.001+08:00

1. Canned Tomatoes The expert: Fredrick vom Saal, PhD, an endocrinologist at the University of Missouri who studies bisphenol-A The problem: The resin linings of tin cans contain bisphenol-A, a synthetic estrogen that has been linked to ailments ranging from reproductive problems to heart disease, diabetes, and obesity. Unfortunately, acidity (a prominent characteristic of tomatoes) causes BPA to leach into your food. Studies show that the BPA in most people's body exceeds the amount that suppresses sperm production or causes chromosomal damage to the eggs of animals. "You can get 50 mcg of BPA per liter out of a tomato can, and that's a level that is going to impact people, particularly the young," says vom Saal. "I won't go near canned tomatoes." The solution: Choose tomatoes in glass bottles (which do not need resin linings), such as the brands Bionaturae and Coluccio. You can also get several types in Tetra Pak boxes, like Trader Joe's and Pomi. 2. Corn-Fed Beef The expert: Joel Salatin, co-owner of Polyface Farms and author of half a dozen books on sustainable farming The problem: Cattle evolved to eat grass, not grains. But farmers today feed their animals corn and soybeans, which fatten up the animals faster for slaughter. More money for cattle farmers (and lower prices at the grocery store) means a lot less nutrition for us. A recent comprehensive study conducted by the USDA and researchers from Clemson University found that compared with corn-fed beef, grass-fed beef is higher in beta-carotene, vitamin E, omega-3s, conjugated linoleic acid (CLA), calcium, magnesium, and potassium; lower in inflammatory omega-6s; and lower in saturated fats that have been linked to heart disease. "We need to respect the fact that cows are herbivores, and that does not mean feeding them corn and chicken manure," says Salatin. The solution: Buy grass-fed beef, which can be found at specialty grocers, farmers' markets, and nationally at Whole Foods. It's usually labeled because it demands a premium, but if you don't see it, ask your butcher. 3. Microwave Popcorn The expert: Olga Naidenko, PhD, a senior scientist for the Environmental Working Group, The problem: Chemicals, including perfluorooctanoic acid (PFOA), in the lining of the bag, are part of a class of compounds that may be linked to infertility in humans, according to a recent study from UCLA. In animal testing, the chemicals cause liver, testicular, and pancreatic cancer. Studies show that microwaving causes the chemicals to vaporize—and migrate into your popcorn. "They stay in your body for years and accumulate there," says Naidenko, which is why researchers worry that levels in humans could approach the amounts causing cancers in laboratory animals. DuPont and other manufacturers have promised to phase out PFOA by 2015 under a voluntary EPA plan, but millions of bags of popcorn will be sold between now and then. The solution: Pop natural kernels the old-fashioned way: in a skillet. For flavorings, you can add real butter or dried seasonings, such as dillweed, vegetable flakes, or soup mix. 4. Nonorganic Potatoes The expert: Jeffrey Moyer, chair of the National Organic Standards Board The problem: Root vegetables absorb herbicides, pesticides, and fungicides that wind up in soil. In the case of potatoes—the nation's most popular vegetable—they're treated with fungicides during the growing season, then sprayed with herbicides to kill off the fibrous vines before harvesting. After they're dug up, the potatoes are treated yet again to prevent them from sprouting. "Try this experiment: Buy a conventional potato in a store, and try to get it to sprout. It won't," says Moyer, who is also farm director of the Rodale Institute (also owned by Rodale Inc., the publisher of Prevention). "I've talked with potato growers who say point-blank they would never eat the potatoes they sell. They have separate plots where they grow potatoes for themselves without all the chemicals." The solution: Buy organic potatoes. Washing isn't good enough if you're trying to remove chemicals that have been absorbed into the flesh. 5. Farmed Salmon The expert: David Carpenter, MD, director of the Institute for Health and the Environment at the University at Albany and publisher of a major study in the journal Science on contamination in fish. The problem: Nature didn't intend for salmon to be crammed into pens and fed soy, poultry litter, and hydrolyzed chicken feathers. As a result, farmed salmon is lower in vitamin D and higher in contaminants, including carcinogens, PCBs, brominated flame retardants, and pesticides such as dioxin and DDT. According to Carpenter, the most contaminated fish come from Northern Europe, which can be found on American menus. "You can only safely eat one of these salmon dinners every 5 months without increasing your risk of cancer," says Carpenter, whose 2004 fish contamination study got broad media attention. "It's that bad." Preliminary science has also linked DDT to diabetes and obesity, but some nutritionists believe the benefits of omega-3s outweigh the risks. There is also concern about the high level of antibiotics and pesticides used to treat these fish. When you eat farmed salmon, you get dosed with the same drugs and chemicals. The solution: Switch to wild-caught Alaska salmon. If the package says fresh Atlantic, it's farmed. There are no commercial fisheries left for wild Atlantic salmon. 6. Milk Produced with Artificial Hormones The expert: Rick North, project director of the Campaign for Safe Food at the Oregon Physicians for Social Responsibility and former CEO of the Oregon division of the American Cancer Society The problem: Milk producers treat their dairy cattle with recombinant bovine growth hormone (rBGH or rBST, as it is also known) to boost milk production. But rBGH also increases udder infections and even pus in the milk. It also leads to higher levels of a hormone called insulin-like growth factor in milk. In people, high levels of IGF-1 may contribute to breast, prostate, and colon cancers. "When the government approved rBGH, it was thought that IGF-1 from milk would be broken down in the human digestive tract," says North. As it turns out, the casein in milk protects most of it, according to several independent studies. "There's not 100% proof that this is increasing cancer in humans," admits North. "However, it's banned in most industrialized countries." The solution: Check labels for rBGH-free, rBST-free, produced without artificial hormones, or organic milk. These phrases indicate rBGH-free products. 7. Conventional Apples The expert: Mark Kastel, former executive for agribusiness and codirector of the Cornucopia Institute, a farm-policy research group that supports organic foods The problem: If fall fruits held a "most doused in pesticides contest," apples would win. Why? They are individually grafted (descended from a single tree) so that each variety maintains its distinctive flavor. As such, apples don't develop resistance to pests and are sprayed frequently. The industry maintains that these residues are not harmful. But Kastel counters that it's just common sense to minimize exposure by avoiding the most doused produce, like apples. "Farm workers have higher rates of many cancers," he says. And increasing numbers of studies are starting to link a higher body burden of pesticides (from all sources) with Parkinson's disease. The solution: Buy organic apples. If you can't afford organic, be sure to wash and peel them first.

Tea Time.....

2009-11-30T15:50:00.001+08:00

瓶裝水危害環境人體檳消協吁政府禁制

2009-11-05T11:27:00.001+08:00

瓶裝水危害環境人體檳消協吁政府禁制（檳城4日訊）瓶裝水指對身體和環境都不利，檳城消費人協會呼籲政府禁止瓶裝水！該協會主席莫哈末依里斯指出，瓶裝水會破壞環境，因為其生產和運輸都要消耗能源，而且大多數瓶子最終都丟到垃圾場。 “根據估計，全世界每年要消耗150萬桶原油來生產制造水瓶的塑料，運銷瓶裝水也消耗大量汽油。其實，瓶裝水的瓶子和蓋子就占了成本的90％。” 他在記者會上指出，制造塑料瓶產生的危害性也很高，因為排出的有害物質比生產等量玻璃所排出的多了超過100倍。全世界每年約耗270萬噸塑料于瓶裝水。 “這些瓶子被丟掉后，制造了一座座垃圾山。焚化這些瓶子也會產生有毒物質，如氯氣和含重金屬的灰，對人與動物都不利。若埋在土里，這些瓶子要1000年才能被生物分解。” 瓶子千年才分解他說，瓶裝水用的大多數是聚乙烯塑料瓶，其標記是1號PET或PETE（聚對苯二甲酸乙二酯），通常是印在瓶底。當瓶子熱的時候，即使是封著，其化學物質會進入水里。 “在我國，瓶裝水是用羅里運輸的，在一天里的某個時段，溫度可超過攝氏30度。在擺賣前，這些瓶裝水還不知要收藏多久。” 他指出，據美國化學協會環保組前任主席肯•史密斯博士說，瓶裝水留在車里，會改變其化學平衡，使塑料里的物質更快地進入水里。而熱會使化學物質更快地進入水里，即使裝瓶后立刻冷藏，它仍然會瀝出化學物質。英國試驗證實自來水好過瓶裝水瓶裝水並不一定純淨。莫哈末依里斯不解我國人民怎會甘願付高價，購買從水龍頭流出來的自來水。他說，很多消費人不知道，有色瓶蓋的瓶裝水裝的是天然水，白色瓶蓋則裝的是蒸餾飲用水。 “自來水一般含微少的氯氣味。不過，不加標識的測試已證實很難分別自來水和瓶裝水。據英國做過的一個試驗，在24種水當中，自來水排名第3，勝過了好幾個名牌瓶裝水。” 他說，消費人往往被瓶裝水廣告誤導，這些廣告把喝瓶裝水和注重儀態、時髦、身份與健康連系起來。有的消費人甚至說可從瓶裝水得到礦物質。他說，在2006年，德國科學家發現銻會立刻就進入水里。銻是用來制造聚乙烯塑料的一種有毒物質。瓶裝水儲存越久就越毒！銻含量高會造成惡心、嘔吐和腹瀉。先開水喉流動一會自來水可提神解渴莫哈末依里斯勸告消費人用自來水提神和解渴。只要打開水龍頭，讓自來水流動一會，然后才取水喝。這樣可避免喝到味道不好的水，因為最先流出來的水是留在水管里一段時間了的。他說，在一壺加了冰塊的水里再加上一兩片酸柑或檸檬，就是很好的解渴提神飲料了。 “由于瓶裝水影響健康和危害環境，檳城消費人協會呼籲當局禁止瓶裝水。在官方集會場合，以玻璃杯裝淨水取代，在所有公共場所提供淨水。” 他說，消協將致函衛生部要求禁止瓶裝水，讓我國成為第一個禁止瓶裝水的國家。

~Love~

2009-10-25T01:51:00.001+08:00

朋友

2009-10-25T01:45:00.001+08:00

朋友就是喜歡你也了解你的人願你都能珍惜身邊每一個朋友因為你我有緣份，才能成為朋友可以成為知己的，更難得！時間未必 O 你我成為知己的原因但一定可以証明到你對朋友的關懷不是白費！希望您永遠都係我的好朋友！朋友，是你高興時想跟他分享的，朋友， ! 是你不高興時可以給你發脾氣的，朋友，也是在你沒錢開飯時打救你的，朋友，你悶得發荒時可以跟你一同發荒的，朋友，會甘願給功課你抄，跟你一同出貓一同被人罰 ? ?，朋友，也是你買手信時，想買一份大的給他的，朋友，也是你看見他上線 ਹ! 8; ，想給他 " 喔噢 " ！想要體會「一年」有多少價值，你可以去問一個失敗重修的學生。想要體會「一月」有多少價值，你可以去問一個不幸早產的母親。想要體會「一週」有多少價值，你可以去問一個定期週刊的 ! 2232; 輯。想要體會「一小時」有多少價值，你可以去問一對等待相聚的戀人。想要體會「一分鐘」有多少價值，你可以去問一個錯過火車的旅人。想要體會「一秒鐘」有多少價值，你可以去問一個死裡逃生的幸運兒。想要體會「一毫秒」有多少價值，! 你可以去問一個錯失金牌的運動員朋友就是 ~ ~ 即使是一點小感動，一點小事情都想一起分享朋友就是 ~ ~ 當你抱頭痛哭的時候，扶著你肩膀的那個人朋友就是 ~ ~ 當你面對人生挫折時，一直緊握你那雙手你好嗎？你能夠看到它是你與他的緣份你能夠和你身邊的人做朋友也是你與他的緣份縱使你不知道這夥流星會何時消失但如若你好好珍惜看到這流星的每一刻那就算流星走了你也不會後悔請大家好好珍惜身邊的每一個人珍惜! 這段友誼！建立友誼如像種樹，因為友誼是一株樹 ( T R E E ) : T : T r u s t ( 信任 ) R : R e s p e c t ( 尊重 ) E : E x c h a n g e ( 交流 ) E : E m o t i o n a l S u p p o r t ( 精神支持 ) 朋友就是無形中伴你走過風雨，永遠支持你的力量朋友就是一種無法言喻的美好感覺朋友就是在別人面前永遠護著你的那個人朋友就是即使是一點小感動，一點小事情都想一起分享朋友就是當你抱頭痛哭的時候，扶 Œ! 79; 你肩膀的那個人朋友就是當你面對人生挫折時，一直緊握你的那雙手

送給你！因為你是我的好友！

2009-10-25T01:42:00.001+08:00

人格特質有的是與生俱來，有的受家庭影響，也可由音樂薰陶。有一項統計，O型和A型血型的人進行五千公尺賽跑，在中途， O型的心想：「好棒喔！我已經跑三千公尺了。」 A型的心想：「唉！還有兩千公尺。」其實，正面思考模式，可以慢慢培養。我時常在孩子用晚餐時，說笑話給他們聽，不但用餐氣氛良好，又可胃口大增、幫Ó! 61;௙ 2;育，當然菜色也要常變化，才能事半功倍。當孩子不小心弄翻湯汁，我不會責備他們，小時教他們如何處理善後，以後就會自己整理了。有一次，孩子正在吃飯，我端了一大碗的湯，卻在餐桌上翻倒了（平時我做事都很細心），此時，我對孩子說：「今天很難得，媽媽把湯! ;弄倒，如果買彩券一定中大獎。」他們聽了都很高興，紛紛起來幫忙整理。我在「心靈雞湯」這本書，看? 鴗@則故事：有個媽媽，有天在公司，很不如意；剛好那天，兒子在學校也很不愉快，這位單親媽媽就對孩子說：「為了慶祝今天的壞心情，我們去麥當勞。」我想，這樣的母親教導出來的孩子，必定相當樂觀。我在幾次重大手術之後，都能平安回家，我就跟朋友開玩笑說：「因為我在人間的功課還沒做完，上帝不讓我去天上報到。」在去年手術後，我行動不便，喪失許多機能，許多親友都為我難過，我告訴他們：我的生病經驗豐富，這樣會更有愛心，以後才能去幫助別人。有一次，孩子在抱怨，為什麼要下雨。我說：「下雨了，外面į! 40;ટ 3;可以免費洗澡，我們也不會熱，省下很多電費。」後來就不再聽到孩子埋怨下雨了。< BR> 若能養成幽默的性格，不但能改變命運，也能讓身邊的人快樂，亦能增進人際關係，何樂不為呢？送給你！因為你是我的好友！雖然鬧鐘響時我會懊惱，會拉棉被蓋住頭。失業的人好多好多。雖然我常抱怨、感嘆命運不好。感謝上蒼賜給了我生命。不知道這篇短文對你有什麼影響。我看完之後，曾閉上眼睛好好的思索了一會兒。我想到在同一個辦公室裡，薪水一樣的同事，為什麼有的人比較快樂，充滿活力？為什麼經濟狀況近似的家庭夫妻恩愛，親子關係良好，小孩的笑容完全不同，幸福指數的差異會這麼大？卡內基有卅條方法幫助人克服憂慮、壓力，其中一條就是--盤算一下你的福氣。 ! 9981; 184;的是我們常盤算自己不如意之處。我也突然想到這些年來接觸到的公司，無論是中小企業或大集團，包括新興的高科技公司，印象裡，凡是企業文化中帶有感恩與分享的公司，氣氛常較好，遇到挫折、低潮常能站起來。在困難來臨的時候，反而能從中找到機會看到希望。最後我還想告訴你一件有趣的事。作者希望我把這篇短文傳給所有的朋友。我想他一定是希望自己能認真做到感恩，所以需要再次的提醒。可見知道一個理念還不夠，需要活出那理念才行。要想活更有意義的生命，需要常常與好朋友分享。你是我的好朋友，你也有很多好朋友。多好。

這是一百個愛妳ㄉ理由

2009-10-25T01:30:00.001+08:00

這是一百個愛妳ㄉ理由~~一起分享嘿!! 01.因為愛妳，所以愛妳 02.因為妳愛我，所以我愛妳 03.因為世界上沒有人比我更愛妳 04.因為我無時無刻都在想著妳 05.因為妳的溫柔體貼 06.因為妳的坦白率直 07.因為妳那可愛的笑容 08.因為妳那迷人的眼睛 09.因為妳的一舉一動都令我著迷 10.因為妳散發出一種高貴氣質 11.因為抱著妳的感覺好溫暖 12.因為我一個人寂寞時只有妳陪我傾談 13.因為愛妳讓我充滿自信 14.因為妳的任性 15.因為照顧妳是我的責任 16.因為每次我未講完妳就明白我心意 17.因為只有妳最了解我的性情 18.因為只有妳才能包容我的一切 19.因為沒有妳我就不知該如何活下去 20.因為有妳我的生活才充滿快樂 21.因為有妳情人節才有花可送 22.因為所有的花都不及妳漂亮 23.因為我眼中只有妳一個 24.因為即使海枯石爛我亦只愛妳一個 25.因為我喜歡行街時拖著妳手的感覺 26.因為我感謝上天賜予我一個獨一無二的妳 27.因為有妳我就滿足 28.因為只有妳陪我渡過不開心的時候 29.因為時間一分一秒過去，但愛妳的感覺卻與日劇增 30.因為我倆無所不談 31.因為妳讓我有保護妳的念頭 32.因為初相識妳的感覺是前所未有的 33.因為妳是我夢中情人 34.因為一見鍾情在我的內心燃燒著 35.因為我是妳傾吐心事的對象 36.因為妳讓我非常放心 37.因為有妳讓我對明天充滿期待? 充滿希望 38.因為我已不再對任何人動心 39.因為愛妳是最浪漫的 40.因為我倆一起看天看海看日落日出 41.因為沙灘印著我倆的足印 42.因為我很需要妳 43.因為妳曾為我倆的未來打算 44.因為我地側夜長談，彼此分享 45.因為我地係天生一對 46.因為我地能天長地久 47.因為我只願一生愛妳一個 48.因為有妳我看到美好的未來 49.因為有妳我看到了其他人羨慕的眼光 50.因為妳讓我體驗了愛情的偉大 51.因為妳的善良 52.因為有我就必定有妳 53.因為妳讓我感到身為一個男人的驕傲 54.因為任何事我都想和你分享 55.因為除左妳我再也找不到另一個與我相配的女人 56.因為我倆曾互許終身 57.因為我地要做七世情人 58.因為我要帶妳環遊世界 59.因為我要讓每個地方都留下我倆的回憶 60 .因為我要繼續寫愛妳的理由 61.因為我不能放棄愛妳的念頭 62.因為我恨沒有早一點認識妳 63.因為妳讓我追得好辛苦 64.因為我要打敗其他條件比我好的人 65.因為妳選擇了我 66.因為我發誓要好好照顧妳 67.因為我了解妳對我的心 68.因為我發誓要娶你做老婆 69.因為妳很關心我 70.因為我想佔有妳一世 71.因為妳與別不同 72.因為妳成日唱歌給我聽 73.因為我就快娶你 74.因為妳聲音美妙 75.因為妳很開朗 76.因為我們分隔兩地卻兩心相繫 77.因為身邊常有妳的歡笑 78.因為妳喜歡貝殼? 聽海浪的聲音 79.因為一顆心只能愛妳一個 80.因為沒有人痴得像我 81.因為妳的心將我淹沒了 82.因為有妳我從不孤單 83.因為前世我們在一起 84.因為愛妳是我甜蜜的負擔 85.因為妳我拒絕了其他的仰慕者 86.因為我的朋友都叫我要好好的把握 87.因為我不愛妳實在太過分 :P 88.因為我不愛妳實在太對不起自己 :P 89.因為我不愛妳我朋友會打我 90.因為我的目標只有一個 . . . 愛妳 91.因為說了那麼多愛你的理由我不得不愛妳 92.因為我渴望 1 0 1 次求婚的結局 93.因為我期待每一個明天的到來 94.因為我喜歡等妳電話的感覺 95.因為我有千千萬萬的理由愛妳 96.因為我只選擇最愛妳的一百個理由 97.因為我樂在不言中 98.因為我已經寫到手軟了 99.因為我要向世界大聲講 100.因為我愛妳 ! ! !

天使

2009-10-25T01:18:00.001+08:00

想成為你的專屬，守候在你身旁... 看著你喜怒悲傷... 想成為，你的天使.... 守護你一路歸航... 願你(妳)們平平安安~健健康康~~生活變的更美好...快樂...並且..幸福!! 男孩和女孩初戀的時候﹐男孩為女孩折了一千隻紙鶴,掛在女孩的房間裡。男孩對女孩說﹐這一千隻紙鶴,代表我一千份心意。那時候，男孩和女孩分分秒秒都在感受著戀愛的甜蜜和幸福。後來女孩漸漸疏遠了男孩。女孩結婚了，去了法國,去了無數次出現在她夢中的巴黎。女孩和男孩分手的時候，對男孩：說我們都必須正視現實，婚姻對女人來說是第二次投胎，我必須抓牢一切機會，你太窮，我難以想像我們結合在一起的日子...... 男孩在女孩去了法國後，賣過報紙，作過臨時工,做過小買賣，每一項工作他都努力去做。許多年過去了，在朋友們的幫助和他自己的努力下他終於有了自己的一家公司。他有錢了，可他心裡還是念念不忘女孩。有一天下著雨，男孩從他的黑色奧迪車裡看到一對老人在前面慢慢地走。男孩認出那是女孩的父母，於是男孩決定跟著他們。他要讓他們看看自己不但擁有了小車，還擁有了別墅和公司，讓他們知道他不是窮光蛋，他是年輕的老闆。男孩一路開慢車跟著他們。雨不停地下著，儘管這對老人打著傘，但還是被斜雨淋濕了。到了目的地，男孩呆了，這是一處公墓。他看到了女孩，墓碑的瓷像中女孩正對著他甜甜地笑。而小小的墓旁，細細的鐵絲上掛著一串串的紙鶴，在細雨中顯得如此生動。女孩的父母告訴男孩，女孩沒有去巴黎，女孩患的是癌症,女孩去堂。女孩希望男孩能出人頭地，能有一個溫暖的家，所以女孩才做出這樣的舉動。她說她了解男孩，一定會成功的。女孩說如果有一天男孩到墓地看她，請無論如何帶上幾只紙鶴。男孩跪下去，跪在女孩的墓前，淚流滿面。清明節的雨不知道停，把男孩淋了個透。男孩想起了許多年前女孩純真的笑臉，男孩看的心就開始一滴滴往下淌血，這對老人走出墓地的時候看到男孩站在不遠處奧迪的車門已經為老人打開。汽車音響裡傳出了哀怨的歌聲，我的心不後悔，反反復復都是為了你，千紙鶴，千份情，在風裡飛......." 情願繁星點點，跨越銀河能否與妳相見？不怕遙遠，只盼此刻飛奔到妳身邊。往事如煙，魂縈夢牽，增添我心中思念；縱然追尋萬年，今生的情緣不變！如果你想天下有情人終成眷屬，請把這個網頁forward出去吧!! 現在請您盡您的努力....

7 Amazing Holes on Earth....

2009-08-10T15:09:00.001+08:00

apparently the largest ever hand-dug excavation in the world, this 1097 metre deep mine yielded over 3 tonnes of diamonds before being closed in 1914. the amount of earth removed by workers is estimated to total 22.5 million tonnes. glory hole - monticello dam a glory hole is used when a dam is at full capacity and water needs to be drained from the resevoir. this is the glory hole belonging to monticello dam in california and it ï¿½ï¿½s the largest in the world, its size enabling it to consume 14 ï¿½ï¿½400 cubic feet of water every second. the hole can be seen at the top left of the photo above. if you were to jump in for some reason your slightly damp body would shoot out near the bottom of the dam . bingham canyon mine, utah this is supposedly the largest man-made excavation on earth. extraction began in 1863 and still continues today, the pit increasing in size constantly. in its current state the hole is 3/4 mile deep and 2.5 miles wide. great blue hole, belize situated 60 miles off the mainland of belize is this incredible ï¿½ï¿½geographical phenomenon ï¿½ï¿½ known as a blue hole. there are numerous blue holes around the world but none as stunning as this one. at surface level the near perfectly circular hole is 1/4 mile wide, the depth in the middle reaching 145 metres. obviously the hole is a huge hit with divers. read more here.

Used vs Loved

2009-07-29T11:49:00.001+08:00

While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child's hand and hit it many times not realizing he was using a wrench. At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father.....with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?' The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions......sitting in front of that car he lookedat the scratches; the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'. The next day that man committed suicide. . . Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life & remember this: Things are to be used and people are to be loved. The problem in today's world is that people are used while things are loved. Let's try always to keep this thought in mind: Things are to be used, People are to be loved. Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits they become character; Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Malaysia's future ID-funny

2009-07-28T17:04:00.002+08:00

No Others Places...... M'sia Boleh

2009-07-23T09:46:00.001+08:00

It's A Restaurant Not Hospital

2009-07-22T16:37:00.001+08:00

Don't press #90 or #09

2009-07-22T16:36:00.001+08:00

Subject: VERY Important Msg for all mobile phone users Don't press #90 or #09 If you receive a phone call on your mobile from any person, saying that, that they're checking your mobile line, and you have to press # 90 or #09 or any other number.End this call immediately without pressing any numbers. There is a fraud company using a device that once you press #90 or #09 they can access your 'SIM' card and make calls at your expense. Forward this message to as many friends as you can, to stop it. This information has been confirmed by both Motorola and Nokia. There are over 3 Million mobile phones being infected by this virus in all around the world now.

Mosquito trap (Dengue prevention)

2009-07-22T16:17:00.002+08:00

It's just a mix of water, brown sugar and yeast. 1. Cut a plastic bottle in half, keep both parts. Can be Coca Cola / Pepsi bottle. 2. Take the lower portion of the bottle. Dissolve the brown sugar in hot water. Let it cool down to ~70 degF. 3. Add the yeast. Carbon dioxide will form (This will attract the mosquitos) 4. Cover the bottle with a dark wrap and place the top portion upside down like a funnel. Place it in a corner in your house. 5. In 2 weeks you will be surprised by the number of mosquitos killed.

Hotel in Dubai Underwater

2009-07-22T16:07:00.001+08:00

95 year-old grandma......Gosh!!!

2009-07-22T15:46:00.001+08:00

She is very brave & self-confident 95 year old grandma with bikini

腋毛與癌症的關係，

2009-07-22T15:25:00.001+08:00

Subject: 腋毛與癌症的關係，重要必看 !! 為何乳癌最常發生在靠近腋窩的地方？不久以前，我參加了一個由 Terry Birk贊助的「乳癌防制研討會」，在最後的問答時間裡，我提出了一個問題：「為什麼乳癌最常見的區域在靠近腋窩的地方呢？當時沒有人可以回答我的問題，可是最近我收到這封信，我發現它解決了我當時提出的問題。一位朋友將這封信轉寄給我，我把它給一位正在接受化療的朋友看，她說在她最近參加的互助團體中，她也正好學到這件事情。那就是「導致毒素累積成惡性腫瘤的原因是 ---- 剃或拔除腋毛。最主要的理由是：人體有幾個主要排除毒素的區域，包括了膝蓋後方關節，耳後，鼠蹊及腋窩。它們排除毒素的方法就是「流汗」。腋毛会帮助汗水顺着腋毛流出体外，若剃或拔掉腋毛,因而阻止了我們身體的毒素從腋窩排出，但是這些毒素並不會因此而消失，反而會因為無法排汗而儲存我們腋下的淋巴結，幾乎所有的乳癌都是發生在乳房外側上方的區域，那正是淋巴結所在的地方。男人之所以比較不會得到乳癌的原因是因為他们从未剃掉腋毛，这些毒素就被阻絕在他們的腋毛之外而不會直接接觸到皮膚。可能你会问男人每天剃胡子为何不会得乳癌，因下巴并不靠近乳房，也没有淋巴组织. 不但如此，在剃毛时剃刀可能会割伤皮肤，女人如果在剃毛之後馬上使用防汗 /止汗用品，更會提高罹患乳癌的機率，因為這樣皮膚上那些細微的傷痕使得止汗用品的化學物質可以直接進入到腋窩。就算你不搽防汗用品，在剃毛或拔毛时，也会暂时使腋下毛孔扩张，使细菌更容易进入，有腋毛也会帮助阻隔细菌直接接触到腋窝，若是你觉得不剃腋毛不雅观，但是当你看到所附上的照片后，你就会觉得不剃腋毛或乳房生癌那一种看起来更恶心了不过最好还是不要剃或剪，西方洋人妇女比我们华人女性更注重仪表，但是现在她们也开始不剃腋毛了，因为她们现在也意识到不美观总好过患上乳癌。請你將這個訊息轉寄給你認識的女孩子，或你的姐妹,尤其是你妈吗 , 40岁以上的妇女更加不可以剃，因为这个年龄层患癌风险更加高，因為乳癌的罹患率已經高的驚人，這樣的認識或許可以挽救許多的生命請將此信轉寄給你生命中所有的女人:母親、女兒、姊妹、伯母阿姨以及朋友。另外还有一条重要信息请注意：面紙(Facial Tissue)含有滑石粉塵會致卵巢癌...你不可不知面紙含有滑石粉塵會致卵巢癌. 這不是 ~~衛生紙(Toilet Paper)與面紙(Tissue)差在哪裡(屁股上)的問題喔！以面紙取名為面紙 ,因為只能擦臉 ..衛生紙取名為衛生紙,就是要擦了會衛生的 . >以下資料來源：永豐餘造紙股份有限公司, 以下資料提供：董事長祕書楊祕書以前曾看過有關衛生紙與面紙的討論,一直覺得有些疑問,所以我終於請教本公司研發部陳經理得知衛生紙與面紙的製作差異 : 兩者均是原生紙漿製作,均有經過消毒程序,衛生紙未再加工添加任何添加物 .而面紙加工添加入濕強劑 , 在水中不易斷裂, 所以不適沖入馬桶 ;又添加了柔軟劑及活性劑 , 紙粉(粉塵 )多 .你若不信可将面纸在空中抖几下，你会看到很多纸粉掉出来, 一般人都認為面紙紙質較好 ,就是因為添加了這些東西加工 ,也使得成本居高 , 當然售價也較高 . 因此陳經理解釋說,面紙不能當作衛生紙使用 ,尤其女孩子使用面纸当替卫生纸来擦拭下體 ,所以就算厕所里没有放卫生纸，也千万别用面纸来檫阴部。要千萬注意,阴部皮肤敏感的人會有不適反應 .也会导致卵巢癌。陳經理還說 ,他們本身懂得這些原理的人 ,自己家裡都少用面紙 ,儘量全面使用衛生紙.

黑糖薑茶

2009-07-22T15:23:00.001+08:00

(女人一定要看，男人就寄給你的女性朋友吧！) 小時候，著了涼，一流鼻涕，母親就連忙用老薑加黑糖煮成薑湯給我喝。甜甜辣辣的，趁熱大口大口喝下去，再蓋著被子發一場汗，感冒便不藥而癒！我因生產多又密集，一年一個，有一年還生了一對雙包胎，把身體弄壞了。平常經常頭昏眼花，而每個月好朋友來了，頭痛、肚子痛，量又多一拖就是十天半個月。看了許多中西名醫，均束手無策。病看不好，花錢受罪，一氣之下，乾脆不理他了。後來祖母教我在月經來時，不妨用黑糖和老薑煮水喝喝看，她特別強調多喝無害，黑糖能活血，薑是熱性的食物，在故鄉，婦女做月子都要吃些黑糖。老奶奶的話姑且聽之，月經來時，就猛喝黑糖和老薑煮的薑茶，想不到，小腹慢慢不痛了。好朋友量也少了，當然頭痛也消失了，比吃藥還有效呢！黑糖和老薑不但能治病，在寒冷的冬天喝上一碗，渾身冒汗、舒暢無比，這種偏方花錢少，又無副作用，何妨試試！ ※ 黑糖紅豆湯女性的好朋友黑糖能活血，紅豆能補血，故婦女月經來時或前後吃一些黑糖紅豆湯，會讓經期更順及減少疼痛，比使用藥物控制效果好。這種偏方花錢少又無副作用，不妨試試！

Chocolate

2009-07-22T15:09:00.002+08:00

I would like to taste those chocolate..... looks yummy yummy~~~

Why Science Must Be In English

2009-07-22T15:07:00.001+08:00

Malaysian Government should not insists on using Bahasa for Math and Science.. This is because the whole world uses the language as an information and/or technology language. How dangerous it will be if we try to use Bahasa, especially in school. See example below:- Hardware =? barangkeras Software =? baranglembut Joystick =? batang gembira Plug and Play = cucuk dan main Port =? lubang Server =? pelayan Client =? pelanggan Try to translate this: ENGLISH: That server gives a plug and play service to the client using either hardware or software joystick. The joystick goes into the port of the client. Now in BAHASA: Pelayan itu memberi pelanggannya layanan cucuk dan main dengan menggunakan batang gembira jenis keras atau lembut. Batang gembira itu akan dimasukkan ke dalam lubang pelanggan. Now you know...WHY...?

British English vs. Malaysian English

2009-07-22T14:59:00.001+08:00

Who says our English is teruk? Just read below - Ours is simple, short, concise, straight-to-the-point, effective etc.. WHEN GIVING A CUSTOMER BAD NEWS Britons: I'm sorry, sir, but we don't seem to have the sweater you want in your size, but if you give me a moment, I can call the other outlets for you. Malaysians: No stock. RETURNING A CALL Britons: Hello, this is John Smith. Did anyone call for me a few moments ago? Malaysians: Hello, who call? ASKING SOMEONE TO MAKE WAY Britons: Excuse me, I would like to get by. Would you please make way? Malaysians: S-kew me. WHEN SOMEONE OFFERS TO PAY Britons: Hey! Put your wallet away, this drink is on me. Malaysians: No need lah.. WHEN ASKING FOR PERMISSION Britons: Excuse me, but do you think it would be possible for me to enter through this door? Malaysians: (pointing at the door) Can ah? WHEN ENTERTAINING Britons: Please make yourself right at home. Malaysians: No need shy shy one lah! WHEN DOUBTING SOMEONE Britons: I don't recall you giving me the money. Malaysians: Where got? WHEN DECLINING AN OFFER Britons: I would prefer not to do that, if you don't mind. Malaysians: Don't want lah. IN DISAGREEING ON A TOPIC OF DISCUSSION Britons: Err...Tom, I have to stop you there. I understand where you're coming from, but I really have to disagree with what you said about the issue.. Malaysians: You mad ah? WHEN ASKING SOMEONE TO LOWER THEIR VOICE. Britons: Excuse me, but could you please lower your voice? I'm trying to concentrate over here. Malaysians: Shut up lah! WHEN ASKING SOMEONE IF HE/SHE KNOWS YOU.. Britons: Excuse me, but I noticed you staring at me for sometime. Do I know you? Malaysians: See what, see what? WHEN ASSESSING A TIGHT SITUATION. Britons: We seem to be in a bit of a predicament at the moment... Malaysians: Die lah!! WHEN TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT HAD HAPPENED Britons: Will someone tell me what has just happened? Malaysians: What happened ah? Why like that one lah? WHEN SOMEONE DID SOMETHING WRONG Britons: This isn't the way to do it. Here, let me show you. Malaysians: Like that also don't know how to do! WHEN ONE IS ANGRY Britons: Would you mind not disturbing me? Malaysians: Celaka you! So which would you prefer? Send this to your Malaysian friends and let them have a laugh too. Good day!

Printer Problem

2009-07-17T16:40:00.001+08:00

Call to technical support: Caller: Hi, our printer is not working. Customer Service: What is wrong with it? Caller: Mouse is jammed. Customer Service: Mouse? And how it is related to printer? Caller: Mmmm.. Wait, I will send a picture. SEE ATTACHMENT

姐姐的守护者

2009-07-17T16:24:00.001+08:00

《姐姐的守护者》作者：朱迪皮考特十三岁女孩安娜在报上看到律师坎贝尔的信息，她卖掉爸爸送给自己的金项链，在哥哥杰西的帮助下找到律师事务所，请求坎贝尔做她的律师，她要控告自己的父母，控告他们夺走她的身体使用权。安娜的姐姐凯特两岁时罹患严重的急性早幼粒细胞白血病，安娜的父母为了给凯特治病，通过先进的基因技术孕育并生下了与凯特的基因完美配型的小女儿安娜。从出生那一刻起，十三年来，安娜不断地向凯特捐献出脐带血、白血球、干细胞、骨髓……现在，凯特的肾功能衰竭，父母要求安娜捐献一个肾脏给姐姐。于是，安娜找到了律师。坎贝尔被安娜的坚决和聪慧吸引，决定接下这个独特的案子。安娜的钱不足以支付昂贵的律师费，她帮助坎贝尔擦门把作为报偿。十四年前的一个晚上，母亲莎拉在给两个孩子杰西和凯特洗澡时，发现女儿凯特的肩胛骨上有一块淤青，第二天，凯特虚弱地躺在床上，不肯起床。莎拉带凯特去医院看病。医生给凯特作了各种复杂的检查，最后确诊她患了急性早幼粒细胞白血病。震惊的莎拉用无线电呼叫正在执行任务的丈夫布莱恩，他是一名消防员。莎拉和布莱恩十分痛心，他们将杰西托付给邻居，全心全意地照顾起凯特，他们决心一定要让凯特活下去。吃晚饭的时候，布莱恩发现安娜有些不对劲，她脖子上的项链不见了，并悄悄地迅速离开。莎拉不以为意，认为这只是安娜正常的青春期反应。晚上安娜来到布莱恩值班的消防站，他们一起爬上屋顶看星星。布莱恩是一个业余天文学家，他在消防站的屋顶平台上有一架望远镜。凯特在析肾。妈妈高兴地拿来医院肾脏移植的宣传手册，安娜怀疑这种手术的安全性。这时弗恩警长走进病房，送来一份公文。莎拉震惊地发现这是安娜控告父母的法院传票。回到家，妈妈气急败坏地打了安娜一巴掌，爸爸布莱恩较为理智地想让安娜解释。晚上上床后，爸爸妈妈来到女儿的房间，莎拉拥抱安娜，希望她去跟法官解释，撤回诉讼。安娜点头。十四年前凯特被诊断出白血病后，开始接受一系列治疗。医生提出可以给凯特进行骨髓移植，前提是她要有配型相同的捐赠者，最好是有血缘关系的同胞手足。凯特唯一的哥哥配型不符，而非血缘关系的移植危险性很高。医生提醒他们虽然杰西配型不符，但如果凯特还有其他兄弟姐妹……化疗开始奏效，凯特的白血球降低，但她开始发烧，非常虚弱。莎拉的姐姐苏珊跑来帮助他们一家。莎拉和布莱恩决定再生一个孩子。坎贝尔在咖啡店里看到街上一个女人，像一个人，但那身影转瞬即逝。他回到办公室，安娜正在擦门把。莎拉打来电话告诉坎贝尔，安娜昨晚上同意撤回诉讼。坎贝尔坚持他们在法庭见。承审安娜案件的法官叫狄沙罗，他十二岁的女儿几个月前刚刚车祸身亡。而曾经是一位律师的莎拉决定亲自为她和布莱恩辩护。控辩双方第一次在法官办公室见面，法官无法判断双方陈述的事实，要求与安娜私下交流。安娜告诉狄沙罗法官她不能捐肾给凯特，法官告诉她没有人可以强迫她。安娜痛哭失声。法官决定派一个诉讼监护人陪伴安娜以便了解情况。监护人将在一周后开庭审理时向法官报告。安娜一家陷入极度紧张。杰西喜欢玩火。他开车狂飙到公路出口的地下通道，那里有个流浪汉帮他收藏从学校偷来的化学药品，杰西用它纵火。火烧起来，杰西看到爸爸赶来救火。他开车离开。家里，凯特又一次情况危急，杰西帮莎拉将她送进医院。她虚弱地醒来，寻找安娜。多年前，新宝宝正在莎拉的腹中孕育，而凯特又病情复发。关于这个通过遗传技术基因和凯特完美配型的孩子，莎拉和布莱恩接受了电视台的采访。有人质疑他们，但他们信心满怀，一心只想救自己的女儿。安娜在新年夜出生，她的脐带血捐献给凯特。诉讼监护人朱莉亚和她的双胞胎姐姐住在一起，她从狄沙罗法官那里听到律师坎贝尔的名字，感到很矛盾。但她还是接下这个案子，去安娜家拜访。朱莉亚带安娜逛动物园，并对她有了初步的了解，发现她是一个非常谨慎的孩子，比预想中成熟。随后，朱莉亚来到坎贝尔的律师事务所。看到朱莉亚进来，坎贝尔几乎疯了，他们已经十五年没见了，恍如隔世。坎贝尔名叫“法官”的狗觉察到气氛紧张，起身站到律师身边。当听说坎贝尔要向法庭申请暂时性禁制令，迫使莎拉搬出家中时，朱莉亚气愤地认为坎贝尔不顾安娜利益，只是为了打赢官司，谋取私利。坎贝尔中断谈话，离开办公室，有生以来第二次遗弃朱莉亚。坎贝尔和朱莉亚当年同在一所贵族学校读书。朱莉亚是这些富家子弟中的另类，她家境寒微，特立独行，其桀骜不驯的独特气质吸引了坎贝尔。二人共坠爱河。朱莉亚的话影响了坎贝尔，他亲自到安娜家拜访，想要深入了解她。随后，他又去朱莉亚家，试图修复二人的关系。妈妈在医院陪伴病情危机的凯特，爸爸去消防站出任务，安娜在杰西的帮助下溜进凯特的病房，爬上床，姐妹两个躺在一起。朱莉亚到消防站找布莱恩，想了解他的想法。他们和安娜一起到医院看望凯特。莎拉请求朱莉亚不要把官司的事情告诉凯特。朱莉亚和凯特单独谈话，了解到这个女孩一些独特的生命感受，以及她和安娜之间自然真实的姐妹关系。凯特生病五年之后，病情虽有缓解，但一次例行检查中发现，她正处于分子复发期。医生对凯特进行全反式维甲酸治疗，随后又建议进行供体淋巴细胞输注。于是安娜向凯特捐献一万个淋巴细胞，并不得不放弃参加小朋友的生日派对。莎拉劝说安娜撤回诉讼，坎贝尔申请暂时禁制令，要求莎拉搬出家中，与安娜分居。控辩双方在法官面前交锋，法官暂不发出禁制令，但警告莎拉不许在安娜面前谈论这个案件。朱莉亚想和坎贝尔谈话，她认为坎贝尔不能完全从法律角度考虑问题，莎拉既是对方辩护律师，又是安娜的妈妈。朱莉亚找杰西谈话，正处于青春期的杰西被朱莉亚吸引，想要和她约会。朱莉亚在杰西混乱不堪的房间里倾听这个问题少年在这个特殊家中成长的种种经历和感受。为了给安娜一个自由呼吸和思考的空间，布莱恩决定让她搬到消防站，和他一起住。午夜消防队员们接到报警电话，安娜和大家一起出任务，护送一个老人到医院，安娜趁机跑到凯特的病房。他们回到消防站，一起看星星。坎贝尔到医院找凯特的医生时，遇到朱莉亚，他们一起去餐馆吃饭。安娜打来电话说杰西被警察抓起来了，因为他偷了法官的车，请求坎贝尔帮忙保释。在坎贝尔的帮助下，杰西获得自由。坎贝尔送安娜回消防站，在那里见到布莱恩。布莱恩告诉坎贝尔他支持安娜的决定，坎贝尔要求布莱恩在法庭上公开他的想法，布莱恩答应。凯特九岁大的时候又一次疾病复发，医生决定给她作骨髓移植。保险公司拒绝为凯特支付移植的费用，布莱恩动用了为凯特准备的教育基金，认为她用不上这笔钱，莎拉知道后非常难过。安娜忍受了捐骨髓时被扎针的痛苦，还要不断注射生长激素。布莱恩为了奖励安娜，送给她一个儿童项链。骨髓移植成功，凯特终于出院，但她因为自己的怪样子害怕被人嘲笑，拒绝上街。莎拉把安娜和自己的头发都剃光，光头母女三人档走上街头。杰西的车被警察扣留后，开起了垃圾车。他又一次在地下通道里放火，险些烧死人。骨髓移植后的四年以来，凯特不断受到“移植物抗宿主病”的折磨。一天，她又身体多处严重出血，被家人匆忙送往医院。医生提出一种新的治疗方法—— 砒霜疗法。凯特情况危急，布莱恩想要放弃治疗，好让凯特结束痛苦，但莎拉坚决要让凯特活下去。经过治疗，凯特终于度过危险期，活过来。于此同时，热爱冰球运动的安娜想要参加冰球守门员的夏令营，但莎拉要求安娜留在家里，随时准备为凯特提供所需。莎拉提出和解协议，只要安娜这次捐出肾脏，以后即使凯特病情没有好转，也永远不再要求她为姐姐提供任何医疗援助。安娜拒绝。开庭前的晚上，坎贝尔以谈案子为由将朱莉亚带到小游艇上出航，二人旧情复燃，度过了一个美好的夜晚。第二天开庭，众人竟发现安娜不见了。坎贝尔在医院凯特的病房找到安娜，把她带回法庭，庭审开始。凯特的医生、医院伦理委员会的医生、心理医生以及诉讼监护人朱莉亚轮流走上证人席。在用砒霜进行治疗的漫长过程中，凯特在医院认识了一个同样患有严重白血病的男孩泰勒，二人同病相怜，相互爱慕。凯特陷入了美妙痴狂的恋爱中，她拒绝住院化疗，而宁愿去和泰勒约会。担忧的同时，莎拉更多地感到欣喜而激动，她从不敢想象凯特能有恋爱的一天。医院为病人举办了一场舞会，泰勒邀请凯特参加。母女三人一起为凯特的舞会礼服忙碌。舞会上泰勒和凯特偷偷溜走，莎拉悄悄跟随，看到他们在月光下的相拥一吻。当夜，泰勒就因感染高烧不止，急救无效，撒手而去。担心作干细胞移植的凯特经受不了打击，莎拉封锁了这个消息，直到凯特出院。第二次庭审，布莱恩出庭作证，但他情绪矛盾混乱，突然改变了原来支持安娜的决定，表示希望安娜捐肾。坎贝尔要求安娜自己在法庭上作证，安娜先是拒绝，最后同意。安娜开始回答坎贝尔的问题。坎贝尔情绪紧张，他的狗疯狂地吠叫。安娜说出了一个惊人的秘密：她是被凯特说服提出这桩诉讼案的。坎贝尔当场晕倒，癫痫发作。原来他十八岁毕业那年发生车祸，后来就患上了癫痫病，随时可能发作。也是因为不愿意拖累朱莉亚，他隐瞒了实情，离开了朱莉亚。多年以来，坎贝尔一直保守着这个秘密，和他的看护狗生活在一起。通过急救，坎贝尔恢复过来，继续庭审。安娜说出凯特屡次想自杀的事情。法官决定亲自与凯特谈一谈，众人来到医院。最后，法官宣布第二天早上结案。第二天清晨天降大雨，众人来到法庭。莎拉和坎贝尔分别作了精彩的结案陈词。法官赞扬法庭上的所有人都进入了生命品质对抗生命尊严的争论中。他最终宣布安娜胜诉，她将拥有自己的医疗决定权，而坎贝尔担任她的医疗监护权律师。安娜面对父母，他们拥抱在一起。因为要签署相关文件，安娜和坎贝尔留下来，莎拉和布莱恩先离开法庭。随后，坎贝尔开车载安娜去医院。在医院里，布莱恩的呼叫器响了，一场意外的车祸等他去救援。而在车祸现场，布莱恩震惊地发现安娜在被撞的车里，生命危急。一番急救无效，安娜最终脑死亡。莎拉和布莱恩忍受着巨大的悲痛，让医生取走了安娜的器官，捐献给凯特和其他需要它们的人。安娜永远离开了。凯特接受了肾脏移植后，度过了危险期，活下来，并健康地成长着，她实现了自己的理想，成了一个舞蹈老师。杰西警校毕业，成了缉毒英雄。坎贝尔和朱莉亚结婚了。莎拉和布莱恩在伤痛中，继续怀念和生活。

The Journey to My Life

2009-07-15T22:37:00.001+08:00

Yeah~~~~ finally my boss release me already..... Huray~~~~~ haha.... I'm really happy..... I hate to listen she/he is talking "Ye Shu" to me. I have a decision in my mind and I'll never change my mind anymore, no matter how she/he try to persuade me. I'm so cool to treat her/him like that, but this is the journey I would like to go for my future. Take care all my good buddies.... I'll miss you all very much......

请多疼爱你的傻女人

2009-07-15T22:08:00.001+08:00

女人有时好傻，可以为了爱一个男人，而抛下自己的父老，来照顾男人的父母。女人有时好傻，为了替男人生个不是跟自己姓氏的下一代,挺颗又重又大的球十个月，生了小孩后体质变差，身材变形，分分钟担心男人搞外遇。女人有时好傻，为了爱一个男人，放弃父母给她二十几年的姓氏，变成×太太。女人有时好傻，为了爱一个男人,宁愿从受宠的情人变成忙伺候家人的黄脸婆，女人家少了女儿,而男人家从此多个佣人。女子有时真傻，为了爱一个男人，宁愿离开家里公主的地位,逼自己到陌生环境重新开始。男人啊！若你身边有这样的一个傻女人时，请你也当她的笨男人，好好珍惜她!照顾她。别忘了，她不是天生就该来照顾你们全家大小，也别认为那是女人的责任。试问自己为女人付出什么？女人们：你们赞同吗? 男人们：你们有珍惜过吗? （男士们，你们也要学我好好珍惜你身边爱人。幸福万岁！）

乳癌新種

2009-06-27T22:48:00.001+08:00

請將此轉寄給你生命中所有的女人:母親、女兒、姊妹、伯母阿姨以及朋友。一種罕見的新種乳癌於十一月被發現。一名女士的乳房如同哺乳中的婦人般起了濕疹。她的乳房X光攝影片並沒有顯示出任何代表硬塊的陰影，因此醫師只開了一般的抗生素以避免進一步的細菌感染。上了兩次醫院後病情卻持續惡化，醫師於是再度請她去照乳房X光攝影。這回陰影出現了。切片檢查後，發現了急速複製中的惡性腫瘤細胞。為了減緩細胞複製，先是化療，接下來乳房切除，然後又是一整個療程的化療以及放射線治療。九個月的密集治療之後，醫師們保證她恢復健康了！之後整整一年的時間，她過著最充實的生活，然而這批頑強的癌細胞竟轉移到肝臟！四個療程之後她決定捨棄有著續多副作用的化療，找回生活品質。她詳細的計畫最後五個月所有的生活細節，最後的幾天在嗎啡的麻醉效果下，安祥的走了。她在臨死前留下了這封訊息，希望轉達給所有的女性朋友們！女士們！請隨時注意身體細微的變化，並且，有任何不正常的情形時，請儘早尋求醫療協助！乳房外柏哲氏病：這是一種罕見的癌前病變，以濕疹型態發生於乳頭及乳暈上。濕疹後來會形成一片邊緣有硬皮的傷口。我不曾懷疑這可能是癌症，但癌症找到了我。我的乳房並沒有任何異狀，我看醫師唯一的理由是因為這偶爾會發癢、疼痛，十分惱人又醜陋的濕疹。家庭醫師開給我的任何乳膏都無法除去它；皮膚科醫師先前給我的眼周皮膚病藥物也無法治好它。讓似乎讓人感到不安，但無法使我聯想到癌症的到來。我懷疑許多的女性朋友們都不知道乳暈及乳頭上的濕疹可能象徵乳癌。 ( 我一開始的症狀僅是乳頭上冒出一個小痘子 )。柏哲氏病之所以可怕的理由之一，就是因為：乳頭上那似乎無害的細菌感染或是發炎，卻在延誤就醫後一發不可收拾。有哪些症狀呢？ 1. 乳頭有持續的紅腫、不明分泌物以及導致搔癢及灼熱感的硬皮剝落。 ( 我一開始的時候除了一邊乳房有硬皮剝落外，沒有其他症狀)。 2. 乳頭上有無法癒合的傷口。 ( 我當初的傷口分布在乳暈，乳頭中央並且有白色濃稠分泌物 3. 通常只有一邊乳房被感染。這怎麼判斷呢？您的醫師會在觸壓檢查以後，建議您立刻做兩個乳房的X光攝影。因為正常皮膚炎的症狀為紅腫、硬皮剝落以及不明分泌物，所以醫師只有在症狀僅產生於單一乳房時，才會懷疑癌症的可能性。屆時進行發炎部位的病理切片，就能找出病因。請嚴肅的看待這封信，並且盡你所能的轉寄給親朋好友；它可能拯救許多人的生命。我的乳癌在無數化療、28個療程的放射線物理治療以及持續服用抗雌激素後，依舊轉移到骨隨。如果能早點診斷出乳癌，說不定就不會發生這種事情了 …。致所有的讀者：女性同胞不知道柏哲氏病是非常讓人難過的消息。為了幫助四周所有的女人，請將此訊息轉發給周圍的人，使其他人知道這潛在的危險。如果方便的話，拜託您務必將此信轉發給所有你所知道的人，尤其是您的家人及朋友。一個小麻煩可能拯救一個生命。

The Difference between RON92, RON95, RON97 and RON99

2009-06-27T22:26:00.001+08:00

FOR YOUR INFORMATION! Understanding The Difference between RON92, RON95, RON97 and RON99 The Difference between RON92, RON95, RON97 and RON99 Many said that RON92 oil is the older oil, only suitable for older cars or for cars that use carburetor only. There are also some that said that RON92 oil will make the engine dirty and also said that RON92 oil is less powerful compared to RON97 and RON99. Before you make any false assumptions, let us see what the real meaning of RON is. RON stands for Research Octane Number. Octane number or octane rating refers to the gasoline ability to withstand auto ignition (knocking) inside the engine. Higher octane number refers to higher ability of the oil to fight auto ignition. In other words, it means that RON95 is harder to ignite compared to RON92. Different vehicles are designed to be used with different octane number of oil. Higher octane number oil is basically designed for high performance vehicles such as sports vehicle and racing vehicle. Why is that so? This is to avoid premature ignition of oil inside the engine because of auto ignition, which happens before the spark plug ignite the fuel. This phenomenon is known as knocking. Knocking is not wanted because it reduces the performance of vehicle. The right usage of octane number based on design and adjustment of engine will maximize the performance and effectiveness of the vehicle. Modern vehicles are equipped with knock sensor which enables it to adjust its combustion timing automatically according to the oil octane number to avoid knocking or premature ignition of oil. Not all vehicles require high octane number petrol. You can check your vehicle fuel requirement inside the guide book of your vehicle or you can simply check the minimum Octane Rating at the back of the fuel lid cover of your vehicle. Most cars can still use RON92. Higher RON number does not mean that it is more powerful. It means that it is harder to ignite. It will also cost you more.

家有中等生

2009-06-27T22:21:00.001+08:00

其實沒有遠大理想也不是什麼壞事，這輩子能夠做一個正直的人就可以了。女兒的同學都管她叫“二十三號”。她的班裏總共有五十個人，而每每考試，女兒都排名二十三。久而久之，便有了這個雅號，她也就成了名副其實的中等生。我們覺得這外號刺耳，女兒卻欣然接受。老公發愁地說，一碰到公司*活動*，或者老同學聚會，別人都對自家的“小超人”讚不絕口，他卻只能扮深沉。人家的孩子，不僅成績出類拔萃，而且特長多多。唯有我們家的“二十三號女生”，沒有一樣值得炫耀的地方。因此，他一看到娛樂節目裏那些才藝非凡的孩子，就羡慕得兩眼放光。後來，看到一則九歲孩子上大學的報導，他很受傷地問女兒：孩子，你怎麼就不是個神童呢？女兒說，因為你不是神父啊！老公無言以對，我不禁笑出聲來。中秋節，親友相聚，坐滿了一個寬大的包廂。眾人的話題，也漸漸轉向各家的小兒女。趁著酒興，要孩子們說說將來要做什麼。鋼琴家、明星、政界要人，孩子們毫不怯場，連那個四歲半的女孩，也會說將來要做央視的主持人，贏得一陣讚歎。十二歲的女兒，正為身邊的小弟弟、小妹妹剔蟹剝蝦，盛湯揩嘴，忙得不亦樂乎。人們忽然想起，只剩她沒說了。在眾人的催促下，她認真地回答：“長大了，我的第一志願是，當幼稚園老師，領著孩子們唱歌跳舞，做遊戲。” 眾人禮貌地表示讚許，緊接著追問她的第二志願。她大大方方地說：“我想做媽媽，穿著印叮噹貓的圍裙，在廚房裏做晚餐，然後，給我的孩子講故事，領著他在陽臺上看星星。” 親友愕然，面面相覷，不知道該說些什麼。老公的神情，極為尷尬。回家後，他歎著氣說，你還真打算讓女兒將來當個幼稚園老師？咱們難道真的眼睜睜地看著她當中等生？其實，我們也動過很多腦筋。為提高她的學習成績，請家教、報輔導班、買各種各樣的資料。孩子也蠻懂事，漫畫書不看了，剪紙班退出了，週末的懶覺放棄了。像一隻疲憊的小鳥，她從一個班趕到另一個班，卷子、練習冊，一遝遝地做。可到底是個孩子，身體先扛不住了，得了重感冒。輸著液體，在病床上，她還堅持寫作業，最後引發了肺炎。病好後，孩子的臉小了一圈。可期末考試的成績，仍然是讓我們哭笑不得的二十三名。後來，我們也曾試過增加營養、物質激勵等等，幾次三番地折騰下來，女兒的小臉越來越蒼白。而且，一說要考試，她就開始厭食、失眠、冒虛汗，再接著，考出了令我們瞠目結舌的三十三名。我和老公，悄無聲息地放棄了轟轟烈烈的揠苗助長活動。恢復了她正常的作息時間，還給她畫漫畫的權利，允許她繼續訂《兒童幽默》之類的書報，家中安穩了很久。我們對女兒，是心疼的，可面對她的成績，又有說不出的困惑。週末，一群同事結伴*郊遊*。大家各自做了最拿手的菜，帶著老公和孩子去野餐。一路上笑語盈盈，這家孩子唱歌，那家孩子表演小品。女兒沒什麼看家本領，只是開心地不停鼓掌。她不時跑到後面，照看著那些食物。把傾斜的飯盒擺好，鬆了的瓶蓋擰緊，流出的菜汁擦淨。忙忙碌碌，像個細心的小管家。野餐的時候，發生了一件意外的事。兩個小男孩，一個奧數尖子，一個英語高手，同時夾住盤子裏的一塊糯米餅，誰也不肯放手，更不願平分。豐盛的*美食*，源源不斷地擺上來，他們看都不看。大人們又笑又歎，連勸帶哄，可怎麼都不管用。最後，還是女兒，用擲硬幣的方法，輕鬆地打破了這個僵局。回來的路上，堵車，一些孩子焦躁起來。女兒的笑話一個接一個，全車人都被逗樂了。她手底下也沒閒著，用裝食品的彩色紙盒，剪出許多小*動物*，引得這群孩子讚嘆不已。至下車，每個人都拿到了自己的生肖剪紙。聽到孩子們連連道謝，老公禁不住露出了自豪的微笑。期中考試後，我接到了女兒班主任的電話。首先得知，女兒的成績，仍是中等。不過，他說，有一件奇怪的事想告訴我，他從教三十年了，第一次遇見這種事。語文試卷上有一道附加題：你最欣賞班裏的哪位同學，請說出理由。除女兒之外，全班同學，竟然都寫上了女兒的名字。理由很多：熱心助人、守信用、不愛生氣、好相處等等，寫得最多的是，樂觀幽默。班主任還說，很多同學建議，由她來擔任班長。他感歎道：你這個女兒，雖說成績一般，可為人，實在很優秀啊！我開玩笑地對女兒說，你快要成為英雄了。正在織圍巾的女兒，歪著頭想了想，認真地告訴我說，老師曾講過一句格言：當英雄路過的時候，總要有人坐在路邊鼓掌。她輕輕地說：“媽媽，我不想成為英雄，我想成為坐在路邊鼓掌的人。” 我猛地一震，默默地打量著她。她安靜地織著絨線，淡粉的線，在竹針上纏纏繞繞，彷彿一寸一寸的光陰，在她手裏，吐出星星點點的花蕾。我心裏，竟是驀地一暖。那一刻，我忽然被這個不想成為英雄的女孩打動了。這世間，有多少人，年少時渴望成為英雄，最終卻成了煙火紅塵裏的平凡人。如果*健康*，如果快樂，如果，沒有違背自己的心意，我們的孩子，又何妨做一個善良的普通人。長大成人後，她一定會成為：賢淑的妻子、溫柔的母親，甚至，熱心的同事、和善的鄰居。在那些漫長的歲月裏，她都能安然地過著自己想要的生活。作為父母，還想為孩子祈求怎樣更好的未來呢？態度--是學歷'經驗之外, 人格特質的總和心若改變，態度就會改變；態度改變，習慣就改變；習慣改變，人生就會改變。

全球公认最搞笑的11则冷笑话

2009-06-27T21:25:00.001+08:00

1. 蚯蚓一家这天很无聊，小蚯蚓就把自己切成两段打羽毛球去了；蚯蚓妈妈觉得这方法不错，就把自己切成四段打麻将去了；蚯蚓爸爸想了想，就把自己切成了肉末。蚯蚓妈妈哭着说： " 你怎么这么傻？切这么碎会死的！" 蚯蚓爸爸弱弱地说："……突然想踢足球。" 2、龟兔赛跑......兔子很快跑到前面去了 ...... 乌龟看到一只蜗牛爬得很慢很慢 .....对他说:你上来，我背你吧 .....然后......蜗牛就上来了........ 过了一会....乌龟又看到一只蚂蚁....对他说: 你也上来吧..... 于是蚂蚁也上来了。蚂蚁上来以后...... 看到上面的蜗牛......对他说了句:你好！你们知道蜗牛说什么吗？蜗牛说：你抓紧点，这乌龟好快........ 3 、五元钱被犯罪团伙绑架了，打电话给百元钞： " 喂！你儿子在这里，不想我们撕票就用自己来换他！ " 百元钞想了一下说： "撕吧，撕了你们连 5块钱都没有了！ " 4 、有一对男女正在吃晚餐，那个女生一直问那个男生：你爱不爱我？男生看了女生一眼又继续吃晚餐。女生很生气又再问了一次：你爱不爱我？男生终于说：爱！女生又问：那你要怎么证明？忽然男生从口袋里拿了三十元出来，并问女生 :你有没有十元？女生拿了十元给了男生...... 男生就把四十元放在桌上，过了一会儿......... 女生很生气的问男生：你到底要不要证明你爱我啊！男生说：我己经证明了啊！四十摆在眼前！ 5 、有一天，一家失火了，爸爸妈妈都逃出来了，只剩下一个儿子还在里面。妈妈很紧张的在屋外大喊： "儿子..... 你在干吗...... 都失火了还不出来......." 儿子回答："我在穿袜子阿....." 妈妈又说，" 都失火了还穿什么袜子...." 过了五分钟，儿子还没出来...... 妈妈又紧张的喊，"儿子，你到底在干什么？快出来~都失火了，还待在里面 ......" 儿子说，"我在脱袜子阿........." 6 、有个人到河边钓鱼，先穿了个树叶～半天没鱼上钩，他又换了块面包～一样半天没鱼上钩～没办法他只好去换蚯蚓～一样还是半天没鱼上钩～～他气愤之下掏一张百元大炒扔入水中大骂： "他* 的，要吃什么！自己去买！" 7、" 我看不清太远的东西，"病人对眼科医生说。 " 请跟我来，" 医生把病人带到外面，用手指着天上的太阳，问道， "你看那是什么？ " "太阳。" 病人回答。 "那你还想看多远！" 8 、有一天动物们在关公庙前面闻到很臭的味道。蛇说：我这么小不会放这么臭的屁，一定是牛。牛说：我是吃草的不会放这么臭的屁猪说：放屁的人一定会脸红。忽然关公冲了出来，把猪打飞说：说了多少次了，我脸红是天生的。 9 、有个人一天碰到上帝，上帝突然大发善心打算给那人一个愿望 ....... 上帝问，你有什么愿望吗？那个人想了想，听说猫都有 9 条命，那请您赐给我9条命吧。上帝说：好，你的愿望实现咯。一天，那个人闲来无聊，如说去死一死算了，反正有 9 条命嘛，就躺在铁轨上...... 结果一辆火车开过去..... 那人还是死了，这是为什么呢？因为那列火车的车厢有 10节。 10 、一天，殡仪馆送来了三个人，说也奇怪，他们死后的笑容都是 ^_^....... 殡仪馆管理员很纳闷的问警察：为什么他们死后的脸竟然会是 ^_^呢？警察说：这..... 说来话长........ 你看左边那个人，他是跟她老婆在共度春宵时 ..... 在最激情的那一刻，受不了，挂了。管理员就回答说：唉..... 人在花下死，做鬼也风流。那中间那一个是怎么死的？警察：中间那一个喔，他呀，真是人间惨剧，他走在路上，忽然听见自己中了头彩，奖金 7亿多 ....... 他开心的哈哈大笑时，却被迎面而来的车给撞上了，结果，挂了。管理员回答说：唉，他真的是没有福气享受这荣华富贵的后半辈子。那剩下的这一个呢？警察：这一个死的就有点可怜了，他是爬上树的时候被雷给劈死的。管理员回答说：这就有点不对了，被雷劈到为什么还会笑呢 .... 警察说：因为他爬上树后，突然一道闪电 ...... 他以为 .......有人给他拍照 ...... 11 、话说数千年以前，无论是公狗还是母狗，他们小便时都是蹲着的，直到唐朝，事情才有了转变 …… 唐太宗大家听过吧！他老人家养了一对北京狗，有一次唐太宗上华山祭天，带了这一对去 …… 祭到一半时，母狗突然内急，于是便跑到一棵树后解决，在祭天时这是非常不敬的行为，因此惹恼了玉帝，玉帝命令雷公打了一个雷，正好打在树上，树倒了，压死了母狗，公狗看了以后非常害怕 …… 从此以后，公狗每次在树下小便时，都会伸出一只脚，用力顶着树，以免树倒下来压到自己记得看了过后要笑一下哦... 因为笑可以让人忘却一切烦忧...

My Dear Friend

2009-06-24T23:51:00.001+08:00

I’m surprised and shocked when I get to know you choose the way you want to be. Maybe this is d life you want to explore more and get more experiences, but what I feel that it’s something not as what you want, and I felt that you have been deceived by the “upper level”….. Do you know you need to work longer hours than what you did here? Even working hours here is around 10 hours plus 1 hours lunch, how about for the longer hours need to work??? Are you sure this is the life you want to be??? Maybe I’m thinking too much about it, and maybe this is d life you like and enjoy as well… I’m felt sad at the second I get to know you want to leave us. And very soon you leave us without say a Good Bye. I miss the time we were chit-chatting, gossiping, have a tea break together. I’m treating you as a good friend as well as willing to share with you. But for your sudden leaving, as thinking that are you appreciate our friendship?? No matter how, we are wishing you happy in your “new house”. So keep in touch with us if you are free…….

My Blog

2008-04-06T23:31:00.001+08:00

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